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Message: <blockquote data-quote="couragetogrow" data-source="post: 1789099" data-attributes="member: 51777">yes - I do see both of your points. I realized partly what got me to this point is not speaking up/setting boundaries early on in the relationships and then just overextending myself to where I feel like explaining myself is more trouble than it's worth/will negatively affect my emotional/mental health. Since I have no desire for their presence in my life it's like what's the point...but to me, it also shows that I don't feel safe to speak honestly in those relationships which confirms even more that it's not a healthy friendship for me, hence my guilt-free ghost.That being said, I have some relationships that are not overtly abusive, but I am always the one making the effort and if I dropped dead they wouldn't know for months. Some days I'd love to ghost those people too, but as [USER=32694]@Sideways[/USER]  said, I feel in that situation I would be leaning into habits that aren't necessarily helping me manage helpful communications skills in my relationships. I have more care and it feels better to have a conversation with those people first or just communicate more stringent boundaries.</blockquote>