Please share if you are going through this (because i cant believe i am) or if i am even making sense because this doesnt even seem real to me + i feel so lonely. We have been arguing alot lately (stopped for a bit, but started over 2 weeks ago and it has not stopped) why?! because i feel my husband wants nothing to do with me at the moment and i am at the point where i am tired of waiting. I am not going to be immature and/or mislead you and say he is done with me for good because he has not left my side or has stated that he wants to (we both love each other very much) but dont we all get to a point where we need to feel that we are wanted!?? I know they (PTSD sufferes) are going through alot but so are we! :frown: I keep hearing things like"I am sick of this" and "i am sick of you" and just constant put downs, sh&t talking and rolling of the eyes, what am i supposed to think? how am i supposed to feel??? :think: He is still on disability....going on his second month. He has the pleasure of not having me around the entire day because i work....what else does he want from me? :frown: We are going through something right now where we do not talk at all, literally. He never has anything to say to me (yet he seems fine around his buddies) He would never do to them what he does to me with all the disrespect and attitude. He has already told me that he cannot be there for me emotionally. And at the moment i am understanding of that to an extent and i am willing to give him (us) time to make that better. Physically? We have no sex life (and we are in our 20's) furthermore, we dont hug, hold hands in public, I dont even get told "goodnight" to nor do i get to cuddle in bed with him...he curls up by himself in one corner of the bed and i am left in the other. I miss the way he used to hold me every night, all night I bitch at him that we have nothing going in this marriage! That we live like roomates and that i am tired of it and i ask him when all this crap will end and for that reason (my argueing+complaining and questioning) he avoids me as much as possible:frown: it is so confusing but we are going in circles at the moment and we cannot get out of it. He becomes cold when i argue with him about this and i argue with him because i am sick of living with a person who feels nothing at all. These last 2 weekends he has left me all by myself and crying as he walks out, im always crying that i dont want to be alone anymore....and i cry and cry til i cant anymore.... He tells me all this crying and complianing is really pushing him away (and he stays away from me even more) but i feel as if i cannot take it anymore :frown: Even when i was single i have never felt so alone. I am so hurt by this and this is exactly the way he needs things right now it seems...i dont get it! I dont leave him any chores, so he does not clean or do bills (he does cook alot) I dont know what he does all day...I usually try not to bother him (i dont call him during the day) He has told me that at the moment, he just cant be all "lovely-dovey or whatever but i am getting nothing at all! Is that normal? and after how long is it just not normal anymore?? I come home, tired yet happy to see him because i have missed him throughout the day (and i do think about him and miss him) + he just seems cold and distant still ....it hurts to not be missed, or appreciated, or have someone want to be with me....it hurts to be the annoying one, and the nagging b&tch....and the one who wont shut up...It hurts that my husband wont make an effort to hug me, or even kiss me....I dont even feel attractive anymore and i wonder if he's still interested...It freakin sucks to wonder if my husband still likes me in that way Am i that needy? or is there something wrong here?? You decide....Roomate or More??