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VioletHart
Does anyone struggle with guilt over having a great life after abuse?
I'm in a really great place but one of my siblings is kinda stuck in a viscous cycle with my FoO and other sibling revealed some disturbing info about our FoO who they are still very close with that was concerning to me. They downplayed it as nothing but I thinking "that's pretty bad" and had me question whether they were downplaying as a way to numb themselves from the reality.
It's pretentious of me, I think to feel like I need to save them because neither of them have communicated being unhappy, but one sibling has been in and out of psych wards for a decade and I don't think they can see the cycle clearly.
I have next to no contact with my FoO because of the f*ckery other than occasional chat with one sibling but there's some dissonance there as they are very enabling of FoO (maybe to downplay, maybe pride, maybe they truly don't see a problem, idk) and I'm more like i see the BS for exactly what it is and acted accordingly.
Its served me very well to separate from my FoO. I'm thriving!
...and then sometimes there's a feeling like I have abandoned my siblings to live around my mentally unstable parents. We're all adults with one having my mother as their legal guardian because of the situation (that's another horror story). My other sibling maintains a relationship by choice, but I find myself still sometimes wondering if I could do more, but if I'm being honest I don't want to right now because it's absolutely crazy making and I been down that road and it was disastrous...what road is paved with good intentions? Exactly. Samuel Johnson couldn't have been more on point.
...but then there's a thought that I'm contributing to the cycle perpetuating.
Has anyone experienced this?
I'm in a really great place but one of my siblings is kinda stuck in a viscous cycle with my FoO and other sibling revealed some disturbing info about our FoO who they are still very close with that was concerning to me. They downplayed it as nothing but I thinking "that's pretty bad" and had me question whether they were downplaying as a way to numb themselves from the reality.
It's pretentious of me, I think to feel like I need to save them because neither of them have communicated being unhappy, but one sibling has been in and out of psych wards for a decade and I don't think they can see the cycle clearly.
I have next to no contact with my FoO because of the f*ckery other than occasional chat with one sibling but there's some dissonance there as they are very enabling of FoO (maybe to downplay, maybe pride, maybe they truly don't see a problem, idk) and I'm more like i see the BS for exactly what it is and acted accordingly.
Its served me very well to separate from my FoO. I'm thriving!
...and then sometimes there's a feeling like I have abandoned my siblings to live around my mentally unstable parents. We're all adults with one having my mother as their legal guardian because of the situation (that's another horror story). My other sibling maintains a relationship by choice, but I find myself still sometimes wondering if I could do more, but if I'm being honest I don't want to right now because it's absolutely crazy making and I been down that road and it was disastrous...what road is paved with good intentions? Exactly. Samuel Johnson couldn't have been more on point.
...but then there's a thought that I'm contributing to the cycle perpetuating.
Has anyone experienced this?