I have discussed the topic of disability at another board. Actually not a PTSD board, but lots of disabled civvies there. Actually I wanted to know how to cope with another mans disability (not my Vet and the other man does not have PTSD) and mentioned how much my Vet hates it when people feel sorry for him. Those people are disabled but obviously nobody ever felt sorry for them... and they suggested that we must be doing something wrong if people feel sorry for us... like we run around begging for compassion or what. One of them suggested we do not need to talk about it and nobody will feel sorry for us. My Vet tells people he trust if he cannot do do something because of his condition and often they say „So sorry“ and then he feels bad about himself. There was a person working with the disabled (without PTSD) on this board who said people never tell the disabled they feel sorry for them. Do you think we have made a fool out of ourselves by talking to much about it? Actually I wanted to ask the neighbors to have no firework or only a small one on New Year’s Eve. Is that a bad idea? Don‘t wanna make a fool out of myself.