Savedbygrace15
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I am married to a firefighter 16 years. He is suddenly saying he thinks we should divorce saying he is angry for things in the past. He says he is on a short leash & I don't give him the same freedom of being with friends & not asking for an eta. He has started to go hang out with friends & I have no problem with him doing that. I have told him I want him to have the freedoms he affords me. I have apologize profusely but he is cynical of my sincerity. He is angry & depressed. He drinks a lot every day he is not on shift. Always irritated with the kids, never engaged & is on his phone. He is miserable!
He has kept how he feels inside for almost a year. I never knew how he felt. He does not share how he feels & shuts off his emotions. Cuts people out! He had a rough childhood & has lost his dad, brother & most recently his partner in the line of duty. Lots of bad calls, union stress & is training an Arson dog too.
I fear he has checked out on our marriage & is suffering from depression. Or is it ptsd?
How do you get someone to see they need help with depression ? I want to help him but fear he will reject the idea that he is depressed or needed g help! We are going to a marriage counselor & it has been slow.
How do I help him not hurt ? How do I get him to see I love him & I am sincere??
I am married to a firefighter 16 years. He is suddenly saying he thinks we should divorce saying he is angry for things in the past. He says he is on a short leash & I don't give him the same freedom of being with friends & not asking for an eta. He has started to go hang out with friends & I have no problem with him doing that. I have told him I want him to have the freedoms he affords me. I have apologize profusely but he is cynical of my sincerity. He is angry & depressed. He drinks a lot every day he is not on shift. Always irritated with the kids, never engaged & is on his phone. He is miserable!
He has kept how he feels inside for almost a year. I never knew how he felt. He does not share how he feels & shuts off his emotions. Cuts people out! He had a rough childhood & has lost his dad, brother & most recently his partner in the line of duty. Lots of bad calls, union stress & is training an Arson dog too.
I fear he has checked out on our marriage & is suffering from depression. Or is it ptsd?
How do you get someone to see they need help with depression ? I want to help him but fear he will reject the idea that he is depressed or needed g help! We are going to a marriage counselor & it has been slow.
How do I help him not hurt ? How do I get him to see I love him & I am sincere??