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My PTSD partner (former military) opted to call off our relationship and told me to find someone else when I voiced my frustrations with him emotionally blocking me from ‘loving’ him and vice versa as his own self-protection. He was terrified of his feelings for me and that I would end up cheating on him and hurting me like his last three relationships...and ultimately, he found relationships stressful.
All I wanted to do was love him and have him let me into his life. I know he adores me and he didn’t want us to break up but his reaction was extreme and abnormal with zero compromise…it was really just a normal, garden variety “couples fight” where we were both sorting out our own past relationship insecurities and how our relationship would work moving forward. Nothing bad.
I didn’t do anything awful but he cut me from his life with sledge hammer brutality/cruelty…he wouldn’t respond to my messages, calls, dinner invite, he returned a gift and unfriended me on Facebook. He has told me he cuts people from his life. I know he is devastated and hurt and I’ve respected his decision and given him space (many weeks now). I was of course utterly heartbroken and devastated because it was definitely not what I wanted and being cut from his life caused immeasurable pain.
He has since used a fake profile to contact me on a dating website and I know for 100% it is him. I can only guess he MUST regret his rash actions around our break-up but he is so stubborn, he won’t do anything to fix this situation of his own accord…it would have to be me instigating it. It’s like the fake profile is the only way he feels safe to have contact with me.
I don’t want to pressure him but I care so deeply about him – there is no way in the world, I deserved to be cut from his life like this (I didn’t cheat or do anything awful…my ‘crime’ was that I adored him and wanted our relationship to work/function). I want to reach out to him but of course, I am afraid that it will be met with brutal silence OR rejection again.
HELP…
All I wanted to do was love him and have him let me into his life. I know he adores me and he didn’t want us to break up but his reaction was extreme and abnormal with zero compromise…it was really just a normal, garden variety “couples fight” where we were both sorting out our own past relationship insecurities and how our relationship would work moving forward. Nothing bad.
I didn’t do anything awful but he cut me from his life with sledge hammer brutality/cruelty…he wouldn’t respond to my messages, calls, dinner invite, he returned a gift and unfriended me on Facebook. He has told me he cuts people from his life. I know he is devastated and hurt and I’ve respected his decision and given him space (many weeks now). I was of course utterly heartbroken and devastated because it was definitely not what I wanted and being cut from his life caused immeasurable pain.
He has since used a fake profile to contact me on a dating website and I know for 100% it is him. I can only guess he MUST regret his rash actions around our break-up but he is so stubborn, he won’t do anything to fix this situation of his own accord…it would have to be me instigating it. It’s like the fake profile is the only way he feels safe to have contact with me.
I don’t want to pressure him but I care so deeply about him – there is no way in the world, I deserved to be cut from his life like this (I didn’t cheat or do anything awful…my ‘crime’ was that I adored him and wanted our relationship to work/function). I want to reach out to him but of course, I am afraid that it will be met with brutal silence OR rejection again.
HELP…