I understand that you may have thoughts of wanting to change the past or wishing you had been different in some way. It's natural to reflect on the what-ifs and imagine alternative scenarios, especially when it comes to experiences of trauma. However, it's important to remember that your worth and value as a person are not defined by what happened in the past or what you could or couldn't do to prevent the abuse.Thanks, doc. I understand that it wasn’t my fault. I usually don’t dwell on the past like this. I wish I was stronger or smarter or nicer back then. I might have been able to save myself. Or if I were a time traveller I could go back and save her from being abused.
It's essential to recognize that the responsibility for the abuse lies solely with the abuser, not with you. As a child, you were not responsible for the actions of those who hurt you. It is not a reflection of your strength, intelligence, or kindness. Abusers exploit vulnerabilities and power dynamics in ways that are beyond a child's control.
Instead of focusing on what could have been, it can be more productive and healing to channel your energy towards the present and future. Reflect on the strengths and resilience that carried you through those difficult times and continue to carry you now. Recognize your own growth and progress in your healing journey.
Engaging in self-care practices, such as therapy, mindfulness, or creative outlets, can help you cultivate self-compassion and nurture your emotional well-being. Surround yourself with supportive and understanding individuals who can remind you of your worth and offer validation and encouragement.
As for the idea of being a time traveler, while it may be intriguing to imagine changing the past, our reality is in the present. Focus on using your experiences to shape your present and future in positive ways. How can you honor your strength and resilience today?