Hi Tupence,
Welcome aboard. Yep... doobie is a lovely woman, and I had a great chat with her the other day on the phone. You most certainly have support here, that is for sure. I can't actually say I have anniversaries, which in some aspects, I think is great, as my traumas are all military operations, none of which I honestly remember the days, as even caring what day it was, was the least of one's issues generally at that time.
That must be pretty hard actually, and something I myself haven't really thought about I guess, as I don't have them, but having days where specific trauma occured, burnt into the memory along with the trauma... yuk! I don't think I would actually like remembering days for myself, as there where just so many things that went on... I would have to have bad months as anniversaries. Even yukier.... the thought sends tingles down my spine.
Anyway, we are here for you, and glad you found us. Look forward to chatting with you tupence.