Sufferer Hi, I'm new. Feeling so hard to tell my parents and friends about my disorder

Sherry0727

New Here
Hi all. This is Sherry. Finally, I found a place where I can freely talk about my disorder.

I'm suffering from PTSD for over one year. But it's still hard to tell my parents and my friends why I am suffering.

Most of them thought I was just too lazy and too nervous and the medication cannot help me very much. I don't know how to communicate with them. They thought I am too weak to accept everything that happened to me.

Very sad.
😭
 

Sherry0727

New Here
Sorry you are feeling so bad Sherry! I am glad you found this place.
Do you have a therapist? They can help you get better and maybe help you share with other people if that's what you wish to do.
Welcome!
Thank you very much for the reply! I really appreciate the first response you gave to me!
Yes, I'm still trying to overcome all of this with my therapist, it's very hard for me because my therapist told me to rethink the past experiences over and over again for exposure. Because of the language differences between my therapist and my parents, they cannot communicate well, and I need to be the bridge. I tried several times but ended up breaking down and crying. I just feel I'm so weak to talk about myself to my closest person...
 

Sideways

Moderator
Welcome to the forum, sorry you have reason to be here.

If it helps, I often refer to my condition as simply a "health condition" or disability, depending on the audience. Sometimes that can be helpful, hearing it phrased that way, to emphasise that it's not a weakness you have, it's an illness. Like many serious illnesses it has symptoms, and requires medication and treatment. And hopefully, in time, it will be behind you.

Either way, hope you find this place a helpful resource for your recovery:)
 

Elizabeth 86

New Here
Hi all. This is Sherry. Finally, I found a place where I can freely talk about my disorder.

I'm suffering from PTSD for over one year. But it's still hard to tell my parents and my friends why I am suffering.

Most of them thought I was just too lazy and too nervous and the medication cannot help me very much. I don't know how to communicate with them. They thought I am too weak to accept everything that happened to me.

Very sad.
😭
They thought I am too weak to accept everything that happened to me.
Hi Sherry - this makes me so sad. That those around you would turn your struggle into some kind of flaw - wow, that hurts. I am going through the same thing with my in-laws: they think because I binged on alcohol on Christmas Eve that I'm an "alcoholic", even though I've been battling CPTSD for over a year and a half (they know nothing of my struggles with sexual assault and abuse). I had 2-3 episodes with over drinking in the past 2.5 years but aside from that have managed to consume in moderation. Man, people can be shitty. They are so quick to offer harsh judgments when they're NOT qualified to make diagnoses/judgments about someone else. Also these particular people are not very emotionally aware and (imo) are very avoidant about their own baggage. However, they are workaholics, and "busy-acholics" which gets rewarded in this society, while alcohol misuse is seem as some kind of moral failing. Anyways, I digress...

Please know that PTSD is not a personal flaw - its a reaction to something that was genuinely hard. I'm sorry for what brought you here, but glad you're getting support. I find it helps a lot! We. get. it.

Welcome to the forum, sorry you have reason to be here.

If it helps, I often refer to my condition as simply a "health condition" or disability, depending on the audience. Sometimes that can be helpful, hearing it phrased that way, to emphasise that it's not a weakness you have, it's an illness. Like many serious illnesses it has symptoms, and requires medication and treatment. And hopefully, in time, it will be behind you.

Either way, hope you find this place a helpful resource for your recovery:)
I often refer to my condition as simply a "health condition" or disability
YES - this is gold, @Sideways

I find that saying I'm "continuing to heal from trauma" helps me.

I think its important to not think of ourselves as flawed or weak, but as people who are actively trying to heal. Life kicked us the f*ck around, and we are doing our best to manage the way our bodies still react to that, and to sort through some of the coping mechanisms we may have relied on along the way to preserve a sense of self-esteem -- and sometimes those can actually be harmful.

I feel like awareness is key. We need to be patient with ourselves to become aware of how our bodies/minds are reacting, then we can show ourselves its safe now...and (hopefully) ... over time... feel safe within ourselves again.
 
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