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HI my name is Sandra. On monday 10/10/2022 i was going to work like a normal Monday. it was actually a typical great Monday. I had just dropped my youngest with daycare and on my way i went. Floors weren't wet, just a reg day here in NJ. I'll never forget the car; it was a Mazda 3 or Mazda 6 probably 2016-2019 cut me off. so, as I'm trying to avoid being either by him or coming to complete stop and getting hit from behind made the decision to try to swerve. worst decision i could have made, my car ended up losing all types of control, ended up in air smashing into a guard rail rolling over and ending up left on the driver's side. I was trapped conscious, confused but conscious. this man came to my rescue, but unfortunately the man who cut me off was nowhere to be found. and i sit here days later full of anger besides the fact that I'm ok nothing majorly broken, many bruised ribs fractures but nothing that I can't overcome, but has this world really come to that, that we all have so little humanity for one another to even check to see if I was still alive. That is just something I can't get over. I am being silly wanting to go to work the same day. the officers laughed at me. I'm in triage so it's what I do for a living. forget helping me it's my job to help others. but 4 days later I find my mental state is getting worse. morning day and night and tossing and turning i dream a sleep i think i eat the accident my mental state is all over the place, especially at the thought that just 5 minutes prior my 3-year-old was in the car. i thought coming on here would help me and writing and i saw a post from 2017 that was a little similar to mine, so it thought it was the right place to join. And trust me if I could just have a moment in time to thank those men who all ran to my car finding any which way to help me break free of the car I wish I could thank them a million times over. but how do I begin to heal. I know it's still fresh but damn just the thought that the person who caused the accident continued his or her day like nothing happened
 
hello sandra. welcome to the forum. kudos on your wisdom for seeking support for this trauma so soon after the event. seeking support for normal post traumatic stress can go a long way toward preventing the add on of the "d" for disorder. processing trauma is never easy, but the validation and support can help considerably.

steadying support while you process. hope healing happens here.
 
HI my name is Sandra. On monday 10/10/2022

Time. Stillness. For now. Just a second. OK.

That you came here? Amazing. Reaching out to others in the wake of catastrophe is so incredibly important. You're going to be experiencing a lot of different overwhelming emotions and sensations. Anger, disgust, grief, fear, alarm. Hysteria. Amusement. Who-knows-what. Human brains are incredibly complex, we deal with these shock-tragedy type things as they just hit us in the chest like a f*cking bullet.

Right now you're in what's known as the acute stress reaction. Your brain and nervous system and your entire body is primed right now for danger, so that's normal. It is. Just slow down. Take a breath. I know that sounds trite az f*ck. And I sound like a hillbilly hippie. But the good news? Is that PTSD is chronic-you do not have PTSD. Whereas this event just happened. So now is the time to really dig in there and take care of yourself. Triage yourself. YOU need help. Now.

If you can find someone to talk to, please do so. You need to take care of yourself because this is the first step toward integrating a traumatic event in a healthy way. Not piling it all on and taking on every little thing and being the caregiver, y'know? Please reach out, and continue to reach out here. And welcome.
 
You are welcome here. If you have PTSD, my suggestion is to look for a trauma therapist. They can definitely help you witha type of therapy called EMDR. It is the gold standard for CPTSD/PTSD. Don't give up, you are worth healing.
 
Welcome to the community! 😁

If you didn’t already have PTSD before this event? You have a 4:5 chance of not getting it, which is the good news. To up your chances, the absolute best things you can be doing, are known as “traumatic resilience”, and you’re already doing some of them!

The more areas of support you can add into your life during these first few weeks/months? The better.

For some of the best support, working with a trauma therapist, as quickly as you can whilst you’re still in the acute trauma phase (ideally one who understands the complicated nature of people who work in trauma experiencing a major stressor or event, but any good trauma therapist can seeeeeeriously help in the first few days/weeks).

For more on traumatic resilience… read below


If you already had PTSD? This is one of those big life stressors &/or new trauma, that can drop kick even asymptomatic people right back up into the stratosphere, as their Stress Cups overflow. Similar to people without PTSD, getting out ahead of things by showing up support in their lives is really vital, IME.

Whether you had PTSD before this happened, or are hoping to avoid developing PTSD? … Welcome!
 
Time. Stillness. For now. Just a second. OK.

That you came here? Amazing. Reaching out to others in the wake of catastrophe is so incredibly important. You're going to be experiencing a lot of different overwhelming emotions and sensations. Anger, disgust, grief, fear, alarm. Hysteria. Amusement. Who-knows-what. Human brains are incredibly complex, we deal with these shock-tragedy type things as they just hit us in the chest like a f*cking bullet.

Right now you're in what's known as the acute stress reaction. Your brain and nervous system and your entire body is primed right now for danger, so that's normal. It is. Just slow down. Take a breath. I know that sounds trite az f*ck. And I sound like a hillbilly hippie. But the good news? Is that PTSD is chronic-you do not have PTSD. Whereas this event just happened. So now is the time to really dig in there and take care of yourself. Triage yourself. YOU need help. Now.

If you can find someone to talk to, please do so. You need to take care of yourself because this is the first step toward integrating a traumatic event in a healthy way. Not piling it all on and taking on every little thing and being the caregiver, y'know? Please reach out, and continue to reach out here. And welcome.
Thank you for your advice and your thoughts and words. It has truly made me laugh and helped a whole lot. I was diagnosed with PTSD in early 2017 for an unrelated incident, infidelity who knew infidelity and ptsd go together. I've always gone to a therapist, covid happened and i tried the online meetings and even the telemed but it's just not the same. i found myself getting better or should i say just going with the motion and letting each day pass. but you're right i need to triage myself now and put me first. thank you for this.
 
i need to triage myself now and put me first. thank you for this.

100%. Abusive relationships are hard, and I'm really glad you got out of that situation. That you're already dxed as PTSD, this is absolutely a major stressor. It's gonna evoke that trauma response. But you need to take care of you, you are your #1 priority right now. That's a big deal, a shock to the system, and now's the time to "debrief" and process and breathe and regulate and allow your body to return to homeostasis.
 
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