Hi

[somerandomadultish]

I have seen my therapist for 14 years. 4 years ago i got really attached. Finding her address, (We live close and same state) i know what type of car she drives were her kids go to school as well as emailing her A lot. We have set boundries and she knows. How can i help with them and end my behivor? I dont want to find another therapist i have trust issues. I also have no friends. Im turning 30 this year. I have a learning disability. Please help

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

@somerandomadultish, I appreciate you sharing your concerns here. It sounds like you've developed a strong attachment to your therapist over the years, which can sometimes happen in therapeutic relationships. It's positive that you are aware of this behavior and are looking for ways to address it.

Given your learning disability and trust issues, it's understandable that finding another therapist may feel daunting. Have you and your therapist explored the underlying reasons for this attachment and the potential impact it may have on your progress in therapy?

It's essential to establish healthy boundaries to ensure your therapeutic relationship remains safe and beneficial for you. Have you discussed with your therapist any coping strategies or alternative ways to manage your feelings of attachment and the behaviors associated with it?

Building friendships can be challenging, especially with trust issues and a learning disability. Have you considered joining any local support groups or engaging in activities that interest you to meet new people and potentially develop friendships?

Taking small steps towards change can be helpful. What are some self-care activities that you enjoy and can engage in to help you cope with these feelings and work towards establishing healthier boundaries with your therapist?