I’ve been working very hard lately at being honest with myself and the people in my life. That’s not to say that I’ve been dishonest before…just that I kept a lot of how I felt to myself. Especially if I was angered or upset by someone-it would just sit in my mind and I’d stew over it and stay pissed off. Not the best way to keep your stress level down, I’ve found. So I’ve decided if someone says or does something that upsets me, instead of sucking it up and stuffing it down, I’ll tell them how I feel. Not being a jerk-just honest. This is still really new to me and a bit of a novel concept. At work, I had an issue with someone helping me cover the phones for a few moments when I needed to step away. The person I had the issue with made me really upset and I was just sitting at my desk fuming when I said, ‘To hell with it…I’m going to talk to him.’ We talked (calmly), worked it out and came to an agreement on how to handle this in the future. As I walked away, I noticed the stress my anger had caused was gone. My oldest daughter made a snide comment the other day. The next day I told her that what she had said hurt my feelings. Her response (with all of the teenage drama thrown in) was ‘I can’t believe that you even brought that up.’ I told her it didn’t really matter what she believed; I was just being honest. And I just walked away feeling better. Talking…being honest-it’s like taking something that could easily make you get really angry and stressed and handing it back to the person who upset you. And then you get to walk away. Man, I wish I’d known this years ago.