mumstheword
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So I've been out of the life-threatening DV situation, for some time.
I'm, now, lobbying for a transfer out of my town-of-trauma for health reasons and struggling in my communication with my housing providers.
Part of this is my lovely :eek::dead::sorry: package of symptoms and part of this is the ways in which I've been treated by said housing providers.
How I've dealt with this lately, is to ask my trauma counsellor and a local social worker for help, and spend my more "active" and functional moments organizing letters of advocacy from a number of services that I engage with.
I , also, want to write them a letter, explaining why I really need a transfer.
The only reason I'm bothering, at this stage, is that I had one housing worker, the Area manager (briefly and only late last year before my first hospitalization), who treated me kindly. She asked me if I wanted to move and told me they had houses in the next town (my area-of-choice). She's mysteriously left the org which hasn't increased my sense of safety at all (she was an amazing peer, a fellow sufferer and raised in gov housing).
I've experienced a lot of trauma while housed by this "community" housing provider org and feel that that are complicit.
Now, I know this is felt at irrational levels due to, you know, symptoms:eek:, but they've left me in a bad situation when they could have helped me out of it when I tried to get out. I reached out to them and they refused to help me.They left me in that situation and when I nearly died and fled and was made homeless and eventually wound up in a refuge, they took advantage of my naivety and put me in an incredibly violent area after that, because apparently "I had tenancy rights". I had no idea I even had a right to say no without ending up long term homeless and I had young children.
I eventually got transferred out of that area, not to my area of choice but back to the small drug-ruined/ illegal drug economy tiny town where my ex lives and is quite a prominent figure.
I've hated being here, but when I requested moving to my-area-of-choice, they fobbed me off with "Oh, the waiting list is 4-5 years long". That was about 6 years ago.
Here, I've suffered a lot and the neighbors are ice heads, child abusers and DVers themselves and I've just gotten more and more ill, and that's after years of group and individual therapy, and LOADS of recovery practice and training (in peer support, recovery and advocacy) plus uni study .
Does anyone have any ideas how I could frame a letter to clearly and effectively ask for compassionate consideration and urgent relocation?
Oh and I have an at-risk, mentally vulnerable offspring that's desperate to move in with me and out of the drug-f*cked narcissist den that is his father's house (that I procured for him) but I have no room where I am.
And another offspring that I already worked with services to remove from his father's who was made psychologically ill by said Dad to care for, who's already over there.
The majority of my children want to move over there with me, or near me and get away from their Dad but housing have already reduced and near induced a breakdown in my oldest daughter when she implored for their assistance. Yeah the day I got back from my hospital admission.LOL (sarcastic, mirthless laugh:arghh;:dead:)
How do I "trauma-inform" a community housing provider org?
How do I sound civil, patient, articulate and non-emotional when stressing the urgency for consideration of mine and my children's needs?
Or if you have no pragmatic suggestions, any emotional support or acknowledgment will still be hugely appreciated.:happy:
I'm, now, lobbying for a transfer out of my town-of-trauma for health reasons and struggling in my communication with my housing providers.
Part of this is my lovely :eek::dead::sorry: package of symptoms and part of this is the ways in which I've been treated by said housing providers.
How I've dealt with this lately, is to ask my trauma counsellor and a local social worker for help, and spend my more "active" and functional moments organizing letters of advocacy from a number of services that I engage with.
I , also, want to write them a letter, explaining why I really need a transfer.
The only reason I'm bothering, at this stage, is that I had one housing worker, the Area manager (briefly and only late last year before my first hospitalization), who treated me kindly. She asked me if I wanted to move and told me they had houses in the next town (my area-of-choice). She's mysteriously left the org which hasn't increased my sense of safety at all (she was an amazing peer, a fellow sufferer and raised in gov housing).
I've experienced a lot of trauma while housed by this "community" housing provider org and feel that that are complicit.
Now, I know this is felt at irrational levels due to, you know, symptoms:eek:, but they've left me in a bad situation when they could have helped me out of it when I tried to get out. I reached out to them and they refused to help me.They left me in that situation and when I nearly died and fled and was made homeless and eventually wound up in a refuge, they took advantage of my naivety and put me in an incredibly violent area after that, because apparently "I had tenancy rights". I had no idea I even had a right to say no without ending up long term homeless and I had young children.
I eventually got transferred out of that area, not to my area of choice but back to the small drug-ruined/ illegal drug economy tiny town where my ex lives and is quite a prominent figure.
I've hated being here, but when I requested moving to my-area-of-choice, they fobbed me off with "Oh, the waiting list is 4-5 years long". That was about 6 years ago.
Here, I've suffered a lot and the neighbors are ice heads, child abusers and DVers themselves and I've just gotten more and more ill, and that's after years of group and individual therapy, and LOADS of recovery practice and training (in peer support, recovery and advocacy) plus uni study .
Does anyone have any ideas how I could frame a letter to clearly and effectively ask for compassionate consideration and urgent relocation?
Oh and I have an at-risk, mentally vulnerable offspring that's desperate to move in with me and out of the drug-f*cked narcissist den that is his father's house (that I procured for him) but I have no room where I am.
And another offspring that I already worked with services to remove from his father's who was made psychologically ill by said Dad to care for, who's already over there.
The majority of my children want to move over there with me, or near me and get away from their Dad but housing have already reduced and near induced a breakdown in my oldest daughter when she implored for their assistance. Yeah the day I got back from my hospital admission.LOL (sarcastic, mirthless laugh:arghh;:dead:)
How do I "trauma-inform" a community housing provider org?
How do I sound civil, patient, articulate and non-emotional when stressing the urgency for consideration of mine and my children's needs?
Or if you have no pragmatic suggestions, any emotional support or acknowledgment will still be hugely appreciated.:happy:
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