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Message: <blockquote data-quote="JGirl" data-source="post: 1767630" data-attributes="member: 51215">I have a sister who had very toxic behaviours towards family members. I have had to put up very firm boundaries so that she does not impact me. She often cuts down other members so the she can inflate herself. The second she starts, I end the conversation and then step back from her for a while. I don't explain that to her, I just do it. I find this easier than getting into a battle over things.One Christmas, she blamed me because my x husband form abusing my daughter and then started to say bad things about him-all in front of my kids. I packed up the kids and left immediately. That resulted in a 3 year period where we had no contact. It made it hard because I missed out on being with my family for holidays, but it was necessary. I was blamed for keeping everyone apart and that was hurtful, but my (and my kids) safety and well being are more important than what my family thinks. I got remarried during that time and my parents tried to get me to invite her to the wedding. I didn't because it would have just made my day stressful. 8 years later I don't regret not inviting her. I do carry resentment towards her for things she has done but I also love her and would help her in a heartbeat if she needed me. Things have been very bad for her and while I am understanding of that, I won't let her be manipulative or abusive towards me or my children because of it. Honestly, we rarely talk. It is just better that way.</blockquote>

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