How do I handle triggers and unexpected emotions?

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Mar

First time here, I don't even know if I'm in the right section.

I've been through a phase of being heavy bullied because I'm a lesbian from 13yo to 17. I thought I got over a lot of things that happened, but I still have triggers. When I find out people are talking behind my back (even if it's compliments) I immediately freak out and shut down and get super angry or incredibly sad, and it's just one example of many. I've just recently learned to identify these things that happen as triggers (at least I think they are, it's like I'm not reacting to the present situation as it is but I'm acting as if I was in that shitty situation again), but I can't afford a therapist for the time being and I don't know how to deal with these things.

I don't want to hurt my friends or in general people by overreacting to a situation that doesn't need that kind of reaction, but I don't know how to emotionally separate the present from the past.
 

Freddyt

MyPTSD Pro
I don't want to hurt my friends or in general people by overreacting to a situation that doesn't need that kind of reaction, but I don't know how to emotionally separate the present from the past.
I don't know that I have a direct answer for that but pretty much everyone with PTSD deals with that. The biggest part is usually how information is processed by your PTSD brain.
Instead of reasoning out what emotions to assign - your brain says "how much panic and anger do I assign to this?"

You need to gain space to reason out what is being said and what it means. Best place to start is here:

Learning how to gain space and reason out how you should really feel is a hard thing. There's lots to it. There are also more helpful articles here if you look under ARTICLES on the big blue title bar.
 
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