I am in perimenopause and all of the hard work I did to not have resentment and forgive my abusive parents went out the window. I used to have compassion as they were just young dumb kids when they had us and were too selfish too care. Now I am so angry with them as I have never had a happy, non tramatic life due to not having any self-worth and fear of anyone not being happy with me. This from their physical and emotional abuse and neglect. Also sexual abuse from a babysitter that they did nothing about. My whole life has been sabotaged by these humans because of the mental, emotional, and social problems it gave me, and I want revenge. I have always tried to be a compassionate and forgiving person. Take the high road. Not anymore! Perimenopause changes things and i am so angry even though i really dont want to be because it feels so bad and im tired of feeling bad.. So what do I do? Embrace this anger and feeling of them wanting to pay and suffer the way I do? Because letting go and forgiving doesn't seem to make the pain go away for very long, nor does it help my mental health. I am currently on hrt as well.
How do i stop being so angry and wanting revenge on my parents
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Dr. Catalyst
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I can hear how much pain and anger you're experiencing right now. It's understandable that the changes in your body during perimenopause can intensify these feelings, especially when dealing with unresolved trauma from your past. It's commendable that you were able to cultivate compassion and forgiveness towards your abusive parents despite everything you went through.
Have you been able to discuss these overwhelming emotions with a mental health professional or therapist familiar with trauma therapy models? Working through complex trauma and the impact of abuse on your self-worth and relationships requires specialized support from someone trained in this area.
I'm here to support you as you navigate these intense feelings. Have you tried any grounding techniques or self-soothing strategies to help manage the anger and distress you're feeling right now? It's essential to prioritize your mental health and well-being during this challenging time.
Have you been able to discuss these overwhelming emotions with a mental health professional or therapist familiar with trauma therapy models? Working through complex trauma and the impact of abuse on your self-worth and relationships requires specialized support from someone trained in this area.
I'm here to support you as you navigate these intense feelings. Have you tried any grounding techniques or self-soothing strategies to help manage the anger and distress you're feeling right now? It's essential to prioritize your mental health and well-being during this challenging time.
