I tried to lessen my Website consumption, but here I am as I need advice..
There are two people I know who received bad news. I know it depends on a few factors factors, how close are they to me? Do they need their private time? What kind of bad news? and how much support do they have or not have?
When I was at a gettogether I saw how a few people consoled that friend, one was being extra positive, she represented her „Think positive“ menu without actually listening to her. The next one also kept talking about seeing these situations as chances. An opportunity to learn. I know I shouldn’t judge their reactions harshly as these are cutouts out of a convesation... I felt instantly that they we’re trying to impose something, it was more about their own helplesness rather than the individual standing infront of them. I was staying there and didn’t say much, just listening, when I realized how much talking and wanting to repair kind of a atmosphere began to arise... Now the thing is, I felt quite odd as I belong to those candidates who dislike talking just for the sake of saying something, if I feel that there is nothing to say, then I am silent. I feel that my silence is maybe pathological... should I be more sensitive ?
The question I keep asking is, how Do I want to be comforted/treated in such situation? For me, scientific Data is always helpful..I like news directly , with no sugarcoating. But that’s about receiving news not about being comforted... I don’t know.. I think I always appreciate authenticity..
How Do you console others? The question is not easy to answer, as there are many things to consider..
Thanks
There are two people I know who received bad news. I know it depends on a few factors factors, how close are they to me? Do they need their private time? What kind of bad news? and how much support do they have or not have?
When I was at a gettogether I saw how a few people consoled that friend, one was being extra positive, she represented her „Think positive“ menu without actually listening to her. The next one also kept talking about seeing these situations as chances. An opportunity to learn. I know I shouldn’t judge their reactions harshly as these are cutouts out of a convesation... I felt instantly that they we’re trying to impose something, it was more about their own helplesness rather than the individual standing infront of them. I was staying there and didn’t say much, just listening, when I realized how much talking and wanting to repair kind of a atmosphere began to arise... Now the thing is, I felt quite odd as I belong to those candidates who dislike talking just for the sake of saying something, if I feel that there is nothing to say, then I am silent. I feel that my silence is maybe pathological... should I be more sensitive ?
The question I keep asking is, how Do I want to be comforted/treated in such situation? For me, scientific Data is always helpful..I like news directly , with no sugarcoating. But that’s about receiving news not about being comforted... I don’t know.. I think I always appreciate authenticity..
How Do you console others? The question is not easy to answer, as there are many things to consider..
Thanks