How do you manage the symptoms at work especially when my supervisor keeps yelling at me?

LisaZ

New Here
Ive been out on sick leave for a month and a half now due to this Supervisor yelling and slamming her fists together in a chopping motion(Major trigger). I have shaking, crying, poor appetite, insomnia, sensitivity to bright lights and loud noises. This all happens at work even when the boss isn’t yelling at me. How does anyone work when they are like this?? I’m gonna be on the streets!!!
 

Weemie

MyPTSD Pro
It honestly sounds like you need to make a formal complaint. This is completely unprofessional behavior on your boss's part and you should not have to endure this level of treatment.
 

Roland

Confident
Not gonna lie, I wouldn't put up with it, triggers aside, but factoring in triggers, hell to the no. As the above commenter said, you can file an employee grievance or whatever your workplace calls it. You can leave. I'd be leaving, because tbh even after they stop acting like that you aren't going to feel comfortable around them.
 

LisaZ

New Here
It honestly sounds like you need to make a formal complaint. This is completely unprofessional behavior on your boss's part and you should not have to endure this level of treatment.
Did that. School system protects their own.
 

Roland

Confident
But well, as far as answering your question, there are ways to delay your trigger reaction. One thing I did, that came to me at the moment as my boss was criticizing me, was to visualize white light pushing away his "attacks" it served as a way to protect me. I know that sounds weird, but it worked, it kept "him" away from me mentally. I was able to finish our "meeting" and then go somewhere private to finish freaking out.
 

LisaZ

New Here
But well, as far as answering your question, there are ways to delay your trigger reaction. One thing I did, that came to me at the moment as my boss was criticizing me, was to visualize white light pushing away his "attacks" it served as a way to protect me. I know that sounds weird, but it worked, it kept "him" away from me mentally. I was able to finish our "meeting" and then go somewhere private to finish freaking out.
Nothing sounds weird when you have PTSD or any other mental illness. I appreciate your tool. I will practice using it.

Are you willing to engage? As in, lawyer up.
Tried that. No one will take the case. Called multiple lawyers in my state.
 

Weemie

MyPTSD Pro
Tried that. No one will take the case. Called multiple lawyers in my state.
God. I'm so f*ckin' sorry. That's the system, eh? And here me's going did you do xyz, blah, leh, hurrghh. With a modicum of faith that at some point someone would stop and say dude, you can't yell at your employees. But no cigar? Eesh. It's not right. So unbelievably not right.
 

Roland

Confident
Nothing sounds weird when you have PTSD or any other mental illness. I appreciate your tool. I will practice using it.
I'm glad you understand. A lot of times I'm able to calm myself down, by letting myself panic, and gently reminding myself that I'm in the present, and I'm scared because of the past. The triggering person/action/thing isn't the same as X thing from the past. That my reaction belongs to the past, not the present situation. In your case, the present situation isn't okay either, but your reaction is still a past response.

See if you can get a job somewhere else, don't put up with that crap
 

LisaZ

New Here
God. I'm so f*ckin' sorry. That's the system, eh? And here me's going did you do xyz, blah, leh, hurrghh. With a modicum of faith that at some point someone would stop and say dude, you can't yell at your employees. But no cigar? Eesh. It's not right. So unbelievably not right.
Several times I asked her not to yell, the last time with the hand motions was the last time she yelled at me. I called out sick until my sick leave ran out then I applied to use the sick leave bank. I am currently applying for disability as well as interviewing for new jobs. I am just scared I will get into the same scenario which makes my interviews somewhat of a disaster.
 

Roland

Confident
Several times I asked her not to yell, the last time with the hand motions was the last time she yelled at me. I called out sick until my sick leave ran out then I applied to use the sick leave bank. I am currently applying for disability as well as interviewing for new jobs. I am just scared I will get into the same scenario which makes my interviews somewhat of a disaster.
What career are you in and where do you live? Think outside the box, maybe you could work from home or in more one-on-one situations (with the same people as opposed to new people?). These types of things help me.
 
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