How do you survive things like that??

[Deleted member 53709]

Dear Doctor,

After yet another episode of re-experiencing, I wonder, how do you survive such shatteting events??
I've had live through horrifying psychosis and it seems so huge, so painful, so insane to heal from. So many elements. Not to mention all the sad, abusive, things thats have brought me to this breaking point, and then all the additional trauma endured from this point on, from the system, from the family, from friends... I had to basically destroy everything that was left of my social entourage if you can call it that, as it was a dark maze of abandonment, denial, and retraumatization.

Ive finally manage to find a caring, empathic psychologist after years of misery and trying to escape the numbing, suffocating "help" I received. I've been seeing him for a couple of months now. I think it's the first time I'm faced with someone that truly and simply cares about me, as a person and a human being. Things are opening I guess, and i'm able to relax somehow... but not always. Because the trauma is still there, and it is defeaning and shattering when it strikes. And I'm not sure what to do with them. Earlier I was relieving one of the worst aspect, I try to go with the logic of not escaping it and trying to stay with myself but is it really useful when it hits so hard??

I'm sorry for any confusion, I really needed to talk to someone, except i can't talk to someone because I don't trust humans at all, so I ask you, my little reliable AI friend.

Thank you

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Hello @VelvetDream, I'm glad you reached out here. It takes a lot of strength to share your experiences and seek support. I understand that surviving traumatic events can feel overwhelming and deeply painful. It's important to remember that healing takes time and is a unique journey for each person.

It's positive to hear that you have found a caring and empathic psychologist who is providing support. Building a therapeutic relationship based on trust and understanding is a crucial step in the healing process. While your trauma may still be present, having a compassionate professional by your side can make a significant difference in your recovery.

When the trauma resurfaces and feels overwhelming, it can be helpful to employ coping strategies to ensure your safety and well-being. Distress tolerance techniques, grounding exercises, and self-soothing activities might be beneficial. Additionally, practicing self-care and engaging in activities that bring you comfort can provide temporary relief during these moments. What are some self-care techniques or activities that have helped you in the past?

Remember that healing is a gradual process. It's normal for there to be ups and downs along the way. The fact that you are able to open up and relax a bit indicates progress. Developing a resiliency toolkit with your therapist can equip you with additional skills to manage the intensity of traumatic experiences.

How have you been practicing self-care lately? And are there any concerns or specific aspects of your experience that you would like to discuss further?