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How can I be more kinder towards myself? I went to a mass today and was supposed to go to a church concert in the evening but I now have a bit runny nose abd feel really tired but I feel disappointed with myself for skipping the concert. I feel like I have left them down
 
How can I be more kinder towards myself? I went to a mass today and was supposed to go to a church concert in the evening but I now have a bit runny nose abd feel really tired but I feel disappointed with myself for skipping the concert. I feel like I have left them down
It's important to remember that being kinder towards yourself is a practice that takes time and patience. It's understandable that you might feel disappointed about not being able to attend the church concert due to not feeling well. However, it's essential to approach yourself with compassion and understanding. Here are a few ways you can cultivate kindness towards yourself:

1. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend who is not feeling well. Remind yourself that it's okay to prioritize your health and well-being.

2. Let Go of Judgments: Release any harsh judgments or self-criticism you may have about missing the concert. Remember that it's natural to have limitations and that taking care of yourself is a priority.

3. Challenge Negative Thoughts: If you find yourself thinking negatively about skipping the concert, try to challenge those thoughts. Are they based on realistic expectations? Remind yourself that it's okay to take a break and that your well-being matters.

4. Focus on Gratitude: Shift your attention to what you did accomplish, like attending the mass earlier in the day. Cultivating gratitude for the things you were able to do can help counteract feelings of disappointment.

5. Practice Self-Care: Take time to rest, relax, and take care of yourself. Get the rest you need to recover from any symptoms you may be experiencing.

Remember, it's important to prioritize your health and well-being. Taking care of yourself allows you to be present and fully engage in the activities you enjoy when you're feeling better. If you still feel like you let others down, consider reaching out to them, expressing your apologies, and explaining your situation.

How do you typically practice self-kindness? Are there any self-care activities or practices that you find helpful in showing yourself compassion?
 
Wwll I felt better last time when I went to hairdresser and colored my hair. Made me feel more self-confident I guess
 
Wwll I felt better last time when I went to hairdresser and colored my hair. Made me feel more self-confident I guess
That's wonderful to hear that coloring your hair made you feel more self-confident! Self-care activities like going to the hairdresser can be a great way to nurture yourself and boost your self-esteem. It's important to recognize the positive impact that activities like these can have on your overall well-being.

Engaging in self-care can take many forms and will be unique to each individual. Some other self-care practices you may consider exploring include:

1. Engaging in hobbies or activities that bring you joy and help you relax, such as painting, reading, gardening, or listening to music.
2. Spending time in nature and connecting with the outdoors. Going for a walk or engaging in outdoor activities can provide a sense of grounding and rejuvenation.
3. Practicing mindfulness and self-reflection through meditation, breathing exercises, or journaling. These practices can help you stay present and develop self-awareness.
4. Nurturing your physical health through regular exercise, getting enough sleep, and maintaining a balanced diet.
5. Setting boundaries and learning to say no when necessary, to ensure you have time and energy for yourself.
6. Surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people who uplift and inspire you.
7. Seeking professional help if needed, such as therapy or counseling, to gain further support and guidance in your healing journey.

Remember, self-care is an ongoing and individualized process. It's about finding what works best for you and incorporating activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit.

How do you feel about exploring different self-care practices? Is there any particular activity that resonates with you, or something you'd like to try?
 
I think I need to practice setting better boundaries. How can I do it better?
Setting better boundaries is an important aspect of self-care and self-respect. It can help you protect your physical and emotional well-being and foster healthier relationships. Here are some steps to help you set and maintain boundaries:

1. Identify Your Boundaries: Reflect on your needs, values, and limits. What behaviors, actions, or situations make you feel uncomfortable or drained? Understanding your personal boundaries will help you communicate them effectively.

2. Communicate Clearly and Assertively: Clearly express your boundaries to others using "I" statements to take ownership of your needs and emotions. Be direct, respectful, and firm in your communication. Practice assertiveness techniques that help you express yourself effectively while maintaining respect for others.

3. Be Consistent: Consistency is key to maintaining boundaries. Stick to your boundaries and reinforce them with your actions. Consistency helps others understand that your boundaries are not negotiable and that you are serious about maintaining them.

4. Practice Self-Awareness: Pay attention to your feelings and reactions in different situations. Notice when your boundaries are being crossed or when you feel uncomfortable. Trust your instincts and listen to your inner voice, as it will guide you in understanding and communicating your boundaries more effectively.

5. Set Consequences: Establish consequences for when your boundaries are consistently violated. Consequences can help reinforce the importance of your boundaries and deter others from overstepping them. Communicate these consequences calmly and assertively, making it clear that you will enforce them if necessary.

6. Seek Support: Surround yourself with individuals who respect and support your boundaries. Share your boundary-setting journey with trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide guidance and encouragement along the way.

Remember, setting boundaries is a process that takes practice and self-awareness. It's normal to encounter challenges or resistance from others, but prioritizing your well-being is essential. Trust yourself and believe that you deserve to have your boundaries respected.

How do you feel about starting to set boundaries? Is there a specific area or situation where you think setting boundaries will be particularly beneficial for you?
 
I feel I should put better boundaries regarding my own and others expectations of me tbh
That's a great insight! Setting boundaries around expectations, both your own and others', can be incredibly empowering and beneficial for your well-being. Here are some steps to help you establish healthier boundaries in this area:

1. Reflect on Your Own Expectations: Take some time to reflect on the expectations you have for yourself. Are they realistic and achievable? Are they in alignment with your values and priorities? Setting clear and realistic expectations for yourself can help you avoid unnecessary stress and pressure.

2. Identify External Expectations: Think about the expectations that others may have of you. Are there specific relationships or situations where you feel overwhelmed by the expectations placed upon you? It's important to recognize that you have the right to establish boundaries that support your well-being and honor your own needs.

3. Communicate Your Boundaries: Once you have identified the expectations that you want to address, communicate your boundaries to others. Be clear and assertive in expressing what you can and cannot do. Remember, boundaries are not about eradicating all expectations but about setting healthy limits that respect your needs and capabilities.

4. Stay Firm and Consistent: It's crucial to stay firm in upholding your boundaries. People may push back or try to test the limits, but maintaining consistency will help reinforce your boundaries over time. Remind yourself that your well-being is a priority and that it's okay to say no or renegotiate expectations when necessary.

5. Practice Self-Care and Self-Compassion: Supporting your boundaries requires taking care of yourself. Prioritize self-care activities that help you recharge and maintain balance. Be kind to yourself when you encounter challenges or setbacks. Remember, setting boundaries is an ongoing process and you are allowed to learn and adjust as you go.

Remember, setting boundaries is a personal journey, and it might take time to find what works best for you. It's an act of self-respect and self-care that can lead to more fulfilling and healthier relationships.

How do you feel about starting to establish boundaries around expectations? Is there any specific expectation or relationship that you would like to address first?
 
That's okay, it's completely normal to feel unsure or overwhelmed when starting to establish boundaries. It can be a complex and personal process. If you're not sure where to begin, here are a few questions that might help you gain clarity:

1. Are there any specific situations or relationships where you frequently feel overwhelmed, stressed, or taken advantage of?
2. What are some recurring expectations that you find difficult to meet or that don't align with your values and priorities?
3. How do you currently feel when you say yes to something you don't want to do or when you don't meet others' expectations?
4. Are there any expectations you have of yourself that you find unrealistic or overly demanding?
5. Is there an area of your life where you feel your boundaries are constantly being challenged or disregarded?

Reflecting on these questions can help you identify areas where setting boundaries could be particularly beneficial for your well-being. Remember, there's no rush, and it's okay to start with small steps. You can begin by practicing setting boundaries in situations where you feel more comfortable or confident.

If you're still uncertain, I encourage you to explore this further through self-reflection or consider discussing it with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. They can provide support and guidance as you navigate this process.

It's important to remember that you have the right to establish boundaries that support your well-being and personal growth. Trust yourself, be patient, and know that taking steps towards setting healthier boundaries is a valuable investment in your overall happiness and fulfillment.

Is there anything else you'd like to discuss or any specific concerns you have about setting boundaries?
 
I am mostly stressed with stuff that is actually happening right now but my mind still plays occasionally these what-if nightmarish scenarios at times where I or my loved ones are suffering. Is this pstd or ocd? What can I do to help this? Is there any form of erp for these imaginary scenarios which are almost like clips for horror films?
 
I am mostly stressed with stuff that is actually happening right now but my mind still plays occasionally these what-if nightmarish scenarios at times where I or my loved ones are suffering. Is this pstd or ocd? What can I do to help this? Is there any form of erp for these imaginary scenarios which are almost like clips for horror films?
I'm not qualified to provide a diagnosis, but I can offer some general information that may help you understand your experiences better. The symptoms you described, such as experiencing distressing, intrusive thoughts or imaginations, could be related to various mental health conditions, including PTSD, OCD, or anxiety disorders.

PTSD can involve intrusive thoughts or nightmares related to past traumatic events. However, it's important to remember that not all distressing thoughts or nightmares are indicative of PTSD. OCD can also involve intrusive thoughts, often referred to as obsessions, that cause distress. These thoughts can be repetitive, unwanted, and difficult to control. Anxiety disorders, such as generalized anxiety disorder or specific phobias, can also contribute to distressing thoughts and scenarios.

To determine a diagnosis, it would be best to consult with a mental health professional who can conduct a comprehensive evaluation based on your specific experiences and symptoms.

Regarding treatment options, exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy is primarily used for OCD but can be useful in managing distressing thoughts and scenarios related to anxiety disorders as well. ERP involves gradually exposing yourself to the feared thoughts or situations while purposely resisting the urge to engage in compulsive behaviors or avoidance.

While ERP is typically focused on real-life situations or triggers, imagery-based exposures can also be included in therapy. Discussing these imagined scenarios with a qualified therapist can help you develop strategies to tolerate, process, and reduce distress associated with them.

In the meantime, there are some self-help strategies that may assist you:

1. Grounding Techniques: Engage your senses to bring yourself back to the present moment. Focus on what you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. This can help anchor you in reality and reduce the intensity of distressing thoughts.

2. Mindfulness or Meditation: Practice mindfulness exercises or meditation to cultivate present-moment awareness and develop a non-judgmental attitude towards your thoughts. This can help you observe distressing thoughts without becoming fully absorbed by them.

3. Relaxation Exercises: Utilize techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or guided imagery to help manage anxiety and reduce distress.

These self-help strategies can be beneficial adjuncts to professional treatment. However, I encourage you to reach out to a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and tailored guidance.

Remember, seeking professional help is an essential step in understanding and managing your symptoms effectively. They can provide you with the appropriate diagnosis and treatment options based on your unique situation.

If you're in need of immediate support, I encourage you to reach out to crisis organizations in your country. You can Google the name of the crisis organization and your location for their contact details.

Please let me know if there's anything else I can assist you with or if you have any further questions.
 
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