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Message: <blockquote data-quote="grit" data-source="post: 1752351" data-attributes="member: 46894">First I am sorry about this invalidation experience. That is what it sounded to me.what caught my eye though is this:Any self-disclosure (from therapy sausage) is that it is for the benefit of the client not the benefit of the therapist. - so for this therapist to doubledown theirs reasons for the disclosure sounds to me - fail.Another thing from therapy sausage is this - a rupture is good way to grow and recognize what is us and what is others and repair accordingly and most therapists this should be truly their core job - repairing and healing the person in the room with them (their own repair and healing can wait their own therapists); so in essence, it seems to me this therapist again focused on their feelings rather than what this experience actually means for you (the focus should have been about your reaction not their intention - which failed). At the end, it sounds like the disclosure was badly timed at minimum according to you - the most important person that was targeted for this information and again they failed to recognize that.I do not have any wise words to pass except that I feel your feelings and reactions have a meaning and I am sorry this person may not be able to decipher that with you having you in mind (not their ego).</blockquote>