littleoc
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I really like my therapist. She’s perfect for me right now because her area of expertise is in gender and sexuality, two things that have been much more on my mind recently than previously.
However, she always tackles each problem exactly the same way. If I bring up an issue, she’ll begin by asking me to list out all my negative, self defeating thoughts. Then she’ll have us write down how they make me feel. Then, we challenge those thoughts and try to see if my anxiety or helplessness or whatever else has lessened.
It feels... worse? while in quarantine. She’s very supportive. But there have been some issues. Times when I’ve assumed she was telling me secret messages about my behavior being wrong, which led to a dangerous interaction — totally my fault, but if therapy over the dangerous person hadn’t taken that turn, I would have cut them off instead of assuming that wasn’t allowed because the other person happened to be another patient of hers. (She didn’t tell me that, she literally had nothing to do with what happened besides me misinterpreting something, don’t worry.)
She just does this same therapy tactic over and over, especially if she seems in a loss for what to say, which might be in my head, for all I know. But, sometimes I’d like some validation. Or just to vent? But I understand this isn’t “real” therapy? That this is something I should be using friends for, so I need to work past my inability to discuss negative personal matters with friends.
Maybe it’s because it feels like she’s asking me to be over certain issues in a forty-minute window?
For example, I discussed with her frustration about not being able to do work on my computer because of anxiety, TBI, EFD, etc — doesn’t matter fully whats behind this for this post. She asked me to list all my negative thoughts keeping me from working. Which was helpful to an extent. It didn’t fix my issues, though.
This seems to be mainly an issue with me. I am not communicating. She is a good therapist. I’m aware neither of us are “at fault” for this issue. It’s not black and white. So how do I breach it?
Apologies if this post is unclear. I have a massive headache and haven’t slept yet. If you’ve had this problem, how did you resolve it?
Thank you :)
However, she always tackles each problem exactly the same way. If I bring up an issue, she’ll begin by asking me to list out all my negative, self defeating thoughts. Then she’ll have us write down how they make me feel. Then, we challenge those thoughts and try to see if my anxiety or helplessness or whatever else has lessened.
It feels... worse? while in quarantine. She’s very supportive. But there have been some issues. Times when I’ve assumed she was telling me secret messages about my behavior being wrong, which led to a dangerous interaction — totally my fault, but if therapy over the dangerous person hadn’t taken that turn, I would have cut them off instead of assuming that wasn’t allowed because the other person happened to be another patient of hers. (She didn’t tell me that, she literally had nothing to do with what happened besides me misinterpreting something, don’t worry.)
She just does this same therapy tactic over and over, especially if she seems in a loss for what to say, which might be in my head, for all I know. But, sometimes I’d like some validation. Or just to vent? But I understand this isn’t “real” therapy? That this is something I should be using friends for, so I need to work past my inability to discuss negative personal matters with friends.
Maybe it’s because it feels like she’s asking me to be over certain issues in a forty-minute window?
For example, I discussed with her frustration about not being able to do work on my computer because of anxiety, TBI, EFD, etc — doesn’t matter fully whats behind this for this post. She asked me to list all my negative thoughts keeping me from working. Which was helpful to an extent. It didn’t fix my issues, though.
This seems to be mainly an issue with me. I am not communicating. She is a good therapist. I’m aware neither of us are “at fault” for this issue. It’s not black and white. So how do I breach it?
Apologies if this post is unclear. I have a massive headache and haven’t slept yet. If you’ve had this problem, how did you resolve it?
Thank you :)