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I know the 'SMART' method. I think in the past I had trouble with what I thought was specific enough. This year in September I actually set and made measurable goals that I even scaled down to what I thought was reasonable. That involved a lot of thinking, and research of the potential time needed for things I wasn't sure about, and several sessions of couple of hours braindumping goals and thinking of what I want to achieve and why and when. Breaking into tasks even. It was all going well.
One really bad health back issue flare later I have almost no progress done in 2 months on these goals. And they are mostly important big goals, not my wishlist stuff.
How do I reset and make more realistic goals? Especially if I have a feeling like I have limited time to sort of 'get myself together' kind of?? Meaning, for several years my PTSD had been low-functioning and I was barely surviving, and that was between these critical years you start first jobs and families and so on... So now I feel like to a functioning adult at my age I need to achieve certain milestones at faster timeline than my peers to 'catch up'. Like for a first time in years I'm considering having an office job (while continuing being entrepreneur on the side) with which I face gaps in my resume from the PTSD. I still don't have my driver's license (thankfully less important where I live, but still). I still have no savings and I really need to figure out how things stand with my retirement. I've been planning to have savings for years, but debt always came first, and I never had a budget to swing both. I also need to get in shape because any weight affects my current back issue so this is now health issue as well. Like, there is a lot going on even setting aside any achievement goals like eventually having master's. I have achieved a LOT in the last year and a half(from where I started) but there is still a lot I need to be well adjusted and not feel like any crisis will blow me away(not to mention, years like this one).
How do I set realistic goals now considering wanting to catch up, but not making goals so big that they are setting me for failure?
Also how do I not feel guilty over the years I missed due to PTSD? (still have it, just now I know better how to cope. relatively)
One really bad health back issue flare later I have almost no progress done in 2 months on these goals. And they are mostly important big goals, not my wishlist stuff.
How do I reset and make more realistic goals? Especially if I have a feeling like I have limited time to sort of 'get myself together' kind of?? Meaning, for several years my PTSD had been low-functioning and I was barely surviving, and that was between these critical years you start first jobs and families and so on... So now I feel like to a functioning adult at my age I need to achieve certain milestones at faster timeline than my peers to 'catch up'. Like for a first time in years I'm considering having an office job (while continuing being entrepreneur on the side) with which I face gaps in my resume from the PTSD. I still don't have my driver's license (thankfully less important where I live, but still). I still have no savings and I really need to figure out how things stand with my retirement. I've been planning to have savings for years, but debt always came first, and I never had a budget to swing both. I also need to get in shape because any weight affects my current back issue so this is now health issue as well. Like, there is a lot going on even setting aside any achievement goals like eventually having master's. I have achieved a LOT in the last year and a half(from where I started) but there is still a lot I need to be well adjusted and not feel like any crisis will blow me away(not to mention, years like this one).
How do I set realistic goals now considering wanting to catch up, but not making goals so big that they are setting me for failure?
Also how do I not feel guilty over the years I missed due to PTSD? (still have it, just now I know better how to cope. relatively)