Hi I'm Hannah- have already contibuted to some threads - overwhelmed by the emotional turmoil our family has suffered the last 3 years I was calmed by the knowledge this web site shows I am not alone - Ill explain......
"darling" husband did 22 years in Forces ending up 18 months in Iraq.....Don't recognise him - he doesnt recognise him - he has a thousand yard distant stare , cold, grey eyes replace the sparkling blue and he doesnt care if I wear my wedding ring or not ! He doesnt sleep well , he sweats profusley and he withdraws from human contact. He is aggressive admits he is selfish but proclaims he loves his family dearly. He is damaged by our arguing as I just did'nt understand what the heck was going on.......
I am not a physician but I recognise most if not all the symptoms of this awful thing - he wont talk - no check - he is starting to talk but I feel it is too late he has moved out and says he needs "solitude". He is a hard worker and is putting all his effort into his job. I am trying to care from afar as I want my best friend back and my kids albeit grown up kids dad back..... what does life have in store for us..... this is our silver wedding anniversary year and it has been the darkest hell. Sorry this a downer.
over the last few days I have saturated myself with knowledge as he wouldnt talk I have explored PTSD MLC and just plain soul searched, calmer now the arguing has ceased we both are but what the hell to do for the best ? We miss him dreadfully.
"darling" husband did 22 years in Forces ending up 18 months in Iraq.....Don't recognise him - he doesnt recognise him - he has a thousand yard distant stare , cold, grey eyes replace the sparkling blue and he doesnt care if I wear my wedding ring or not ! He doesnt sleep well , he sweats profusley and he withdraws from human contact. He is aggressive admits he is selfish but proclaims he loves his family dearly. He is damaged by our arguing as I just did'nt understand what the heck was going on.......
I am not a physician but I recognise most if not all the symptoms of this awful thing - he wont talk - no check - he is starting to talk but I feel it is too late he has moved out and says he needs "solitude". He is a hard worker and is putting all his effort into his job. I am trying to care from afar as I want my best friend back and my kids albeit grown up kids dad back..... what does life have in store for us..... this is our silver wedding anniversary year and it has been the darkest hell. Sorry this a downer.
over the last few days I have saturated myself with knowledge as he wouldnt talk I have explored PTSD MLC and just plain soul searched, calmer now the arguing has ceased we both are but what the hell to do for the best ? We miss him dreadfully.