Just joined this site because I'm completely lost.
Back story, I'm married to an infantry Marine veteran who was medically retired in 2014.
We met and fell in love QUICK (I'm over 30 so I know it was real). We got pregnant a few months into our relationship and honestly, everything was great. We'd already had every future talk before getting pregnant.
Anyway, we married in October of last year and up until we got married - everything was fantastic. He was happy. He was sweet and affectionate. Everything was perfect. Or so I thought.
It all started around New Years that he started over reacting to every little thing. We'd never had a fight before and now we were having huge blow outs at least once or twice a month.
Last month he finally came clean and told me he was diagnosed with PTSD and that he wasn't able to control it anymore. All of a sudden, all of our arguments made sense.
He went to the VA where he stayed for 4 days. They gave him some medicine and schedule a therapy session for 3 weeks out.
His first session is Wednesday - but every day since he's been back from the hospital has been worse and worse. He's left multiple times but he's always come back and said sorry, and that he wasn't leaving with the intention of leaving - he just needed some time to cool off. He never stayed gone for more than a couple hours.
We fought last week and he told me that his level of love for me hasn't gone down, he just can't feel it. I'm assuming this is emotional numbness?
Tonight he left. With the intention of not coming back. After yelling all night, he calmly told me that he was unhappy with life, with our marriage and with me. He said there is no connection and that he just doesn't want to try anymore.
I've seen a lot of posts about men leaving... but the fact that mine left so calmly is really getting to me. I'm not sure if I should still think it's emotional numbness or if he really is done.
Back story, I'm married to an infantry Marine veteran who was medically retired in 2014.
We met and fell in love QUICK (I'm over 30 so I know it was real). We got pregnant a few months into our relationship and honestly, everything was great. We'd already had every future talk before getting pregnant.
Anyway, we married in October of last year and up until we got married - everything was fantastic. He was happy. He was sweet and affectionate. Everything was perfect. Or so I thought.
It all started around New Years that he started over reacting to every little thing. We'd never had a fight before and now we were having huge blow outs at least once or twice a month.
Last month he finally came clean and told me he was diagnosed with PTSD and that he wasn't able to control it anymore. All of a sudden, all of our arguments made sense.
He went to the VA where he stayed for 4 days. They gave him some medicine and schedule a therapy session for 3 weeks out.
His first session is Wednesday - but every day since he's been back from the hospital has been worse and worse. He's left multiple times but he's always come back and said sorry, and that he wasn't leaving with the intention of leaving - he just needed some time to cool off. He never stayed gone for more than a couple hours.
We fought last week and he told me that his level of love for me hasn't gone down, he just can't feel it. I'm assuming this is emotional numbness?
Tonight he left. With the intention of not coming back. After yelling all night, he calmly told me that he was unhappy with life, with our marriage and with me. He said there is no connection and that he just doesn't want to try anymore.
I've seen a lot of posts about men leaving... but the fact that mine left so calmly is really getting to me. I'm not sure if I should still think it's emotional numbness or if he really is done.