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I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

Discussion in 'Supporter Relationships' started by Sighs, Jun 25, 2018.

  1. Sighs

    Sighs Not a Fairytale Moderator Donated

    So I’ve left him. Quit my job, taken my dog and whatever I could fit into my car and gone. He’s not even upset. He just says “we don’t get along”, “I just want peace and quiet” and played me Adele’s “Love in the Dark”.

    After 5 years of loving sacrifice I mean nothing to him.
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  3. somerandomguy

    somerandomguy Learning how to be myself Premium Member Donated

  4. Sweetleaf

    Sweetleaf Well-Known Member

    Proud of you. So glad you got out of that situation. (Also hoping I am remembering right)

    Abusive people often never gave a shit in the first place, I think >.<

    They just use others like objects.
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  5. Sietz

    Sietz I'm a VIP

    :hug: leaving is always difficult. Particularly in these types of situations.

    I hope you're coping well.
    shimmerz, Mach123, PTSDin it and 5 others like this.
  6. NaeNae75

    NaeNae75 Well-Known Member Premium Member Donated

    WOW! I'm sorry he doesn't care, I'm sure that part hurts. I'm so proud of you for doing what you need to for you. I can only imagine how hard this is for you, but you've been dealing with too much abuse. You're so amazing and strong!
    I'm here, if you need to talk or anything. What are your plans? Whatever it is, you'll be great!
    I'm not sure what else to say, but keep putting yourself first.
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  7. scout86

    scout86 I'm a VIP Premium Member Donated

    I think you made the right choice. It must have been incredibly hard to make. You had put a lot into that relationship.

    As far as what he's feeling....... I think there's a pretty good chance he can't admit what he actually feels, even to himself, much less to someone else. I hope, at some point, for his own good. he takes the time to honestly look at his behavior and consider whether that's the way he really wants to live the rest of his life, and then decides to work on getting his act together better. For you, I hope you find the relationship you deserve, because what you deserve is pretty awesome. :hug:
    shimmerz, PTSDin it, dulcia and 9 others like this.
  8. Sweetpea76

    Sweetpea76 Semper ubi sub ubi. Moderator Donated

    You deserve somebody who puts as much effort into you as you put into them. :hug:
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  9. Justmehere

    Justmehere Help support myPTSD - more info in Social forum Moderator Premium Member

    He may realize in a bit the amazing gift he lost.

    I’m glad you are gaining the gift of freedom from him. :hug:
  10. EveHarrington

    EveHarrington _______ in progress. Premium Member


    You deserve better.
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  11. OrangeJulius

    OrangeJulius Active Member Premium Member

    What they all said ^^^

    Hugs to you. You are so incredibly compassionate and strong for doing all you have done for the past 5 years. And now it is time for you to he incredibly compassionate and strong for yourself. So so proud of you! And so happy you have your pup for company!

    We are here for you as you continue on your journey and face what happens next.

    More hugs.
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  12. Ronin

    Ronin Dark Wings Premium Member

    Damn, Sighs, so sorry. :hug:

    You deserve so much care and love and I am sorry he was not who would give it.
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  13. LuckiLee

    LuckiLee I'm a VIP

    Oh @Sighs, I'm so sorry things didn't work out. We can only do so much to help them. They have to want that help though and they have to help themselves too.

    So he wants peace and quiet. Well he's definitely gonna get it. And I'm sure you'd like a little yourself.

    Hugs to you.
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