I cannot get a grip

[Defaultxlove]

I dont know. How do i tell the difference between crying i need to do vs crying i need to soothe or settle.

Thankfully (sarcasm) the tears are not easy to stop. Maybe these ones need to come out?

It feels like dysregulation as well.
Its not just tears, mood swings? My hormonal problems?

 

[Movingforward10]

When you say the difference between tears you need to do and tears for soothing, what do you mean?

Crying is a new thing for me. My take is: if the tears are coming , it means they need to?
The reason for them? I have no clue. But they need to come out as your body is doing it.

Is the crying helping in any way?

 

[Defaultxlove]

When you say the difference between tears you need to do and tears for soothing, what do you mean?

I mean more like - excessive dissociative crying is that good or bad?

Is the crying helping in any way?

I can hardly tell, I think there's still more to come :( I feel highly unsettled and very money and it's weird bc I woke up feeling great then lost momentum over barely anything.


Whoops I messed it up but my answers r up there - thank you so much for the response.

 

[Defaultxlove]

It also feels like all different kinds of crying. Just lots of it. I am thinking of sad things when I'm crying but I feel like I'm fighting through them also at the same time. Does this make any sense. Sorry otherwise. I've been feeling so sensitive and weird.

 

[Movingforward10]

I don't know if you're the same, but when I'm trying so hard to understand what it happening and why, I think what I am doing is fighting myself and trying to control it all. And, for me, it makes it worse. Prolongs it all. If I just let the emotion happen and try not to control/ be 10 steps ahead, it makes the emotions go more readily. And then, when I'm out of it and more stable again, I can look back and understand.
Does that reasonate?

Maybe, as unsettling and challenging and distressing as it might be, let the tears and feelings come and know they will pass again?
You can withstand this.
It'll go.

Maybe the tears are: release. Or healing. Or draining. Or grief. Or trauma. Or everything all in one. Whatever they are: they are coming out. It's brave to let it out.

Maybe you can find some strength and comfort in knowing it will pass?

 

[Defaultxlove]

Yes it does resonate a little, I think. I feel spacey too.

Knowing it will pass does help thank you. I will try to journal more also. So I can reflect back as you suggested.

 

[Survivor3]

I dont know. How do i tell the difference between crying i need to do vs crying i need to soothe or settle.

Thankfully (sarcasm) the tears are not easy to stop. Maybe these ones need to come out?

It feels like dysregulation as well.
Its not just tears, mood swings? My hormonal problems?

Is there really any difference between crying you need to do vs crying to soothe or settle?

Either way it's good to let grief out.

 

[Defaultxlove]

Is there really any difference between crying you need to do vs crying to soothe or settle?

Either way it's good to let grief out.

You're right. I don't even know what I was thinking other than the immense feelings, feeling their they're squeezing me. But I won't give in. Thanks again.

 

[Defaultxlove]

Lots of crying again.
Relived trauma yesterday.
I have to get up and push through the heaviest tears like black clouds are gripping between my knees and skull.

I know I can but I'm so tired and don't want. Posting here for accountability too.

 

[Movingforward10]

Reliving trauma sounds like crying inducing thing to do. Tears are good? It's letting the pain out?

Is it stopping you from doing what you want to do? Or is it that you don't want to cry?

(I'm the type that doesn't want to cry and feel even more down that I am ...but trying to let go that view and be more healthy).

 

[Defaultxlove]

Reliving trauma sounds like crying inducing thing to do. Tears are good? It's letting the pain out?

Is it stopping you from doing what you want to do? Or is it that you don't want to cry?

(I'm the type that doesn't want to cry and feel even more down that I am ...but trying to let go that view and be more healthy).

The crying feels like it's coming from my whole body? It's the big feelings that need to be broken down to digest that are trying to rush out and my physical body cannot contain it. So I kinda straightened out a bit . Felt the biggest type panic attack coming on and I just said no .. Hands on head to brace myself for if it did come and now trauma lens and sitting down. There is tension in my chest like it's time to cry but I physically cannot handle it right now. Ptsd really seems like it will kill me.

 

[Movingforward10]

The crying feels like it's coming from my whole body?

That makes sense to me.
They say the body holds the trauma.

Are you worried that letting the crying out will mean you can't cope and it will be catastrophic?
I used to think that. And did a lot of work with my T around it.
She, and people on here, reminded me that feelings pass. We, including you, can manage feelings.

Do you think you are fighting the feelings from coming out?