And be cool on yourself too. Live your things and bring that person with you if they want to. It's not your job avoiding to be triggering or squeezing yourself too much--they'll happen no matter what. I wouldn't be dating myself neither, at least for now. If I met someone I cared about I'd get scared of myself and of them. Have a pretense and then withdraw. Everyone is different.
If your way of being is just too triggering for him, you might also call it a day. It's up to you to see if you want to take the time, gently, knowing what things are and not getting into codependent mode because that happens easily. But it is possible. I had a relationship like that. It was very healing and I can't stress how much this person has been loyal to me in incredible circumstances. Looking back I was borderline unmanageable, still he found his way through. I'd be thankful forever. Just try to see if it's possible for you.
Best of luck.
I have being trying to walk on eggshells around him and I didn’t feel like I was fully being me. When he called it off I was in pain because I actually just didn’t understand. His a great guy and it’s not his fault whatever he went through.
In a way with all the pain and confusion I did realise I was actually not being myself ... I also discovered that I do have codependency. I read a lot about it and most of how I was with him or others in the past stemmed from my it.
This is something I need to address. I also need to have a lot of patience which I don’t have to be honest so I am learning.
I am going to keep it light, no expectations.
I do feel embarrassed for how I was acting but there is always wisdom to gain.