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I don't know if i was sexually assaulted.

Discussion in 'Sexual Assault' started by Roxy Radke, Jun 8, 2018.

  1. Roxy Radke

    Roxy Radke New Member

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    I dont know where to even start with this. My boyfriend at the time was 2 years older than me and we had been dating for about 4-5 months I was 13 and he told me he wanted to try doing sexual things (over text) and I stupidly agreed (over text) I wasn't comfortable with it but I thought it was what he wanted. He came over to my house and we started kissing, he tried slipping his hand into my pants but I grabbed his hand and pulled it back up. He kept trying and after about the 10th time I gave up I was uncomfortable but I guess I didn't say no. The week after I just wanted to kiss and hang out nothing too sexual. He grabbed my hand and put it on his member I just rested it their awkwardly until he started moving my hand, it almost felt like. chore he put my hand down without any jocks on so I had to touch his member. It was awkward but I didn't really bring it up or say no. After this he tried asking me to do oral I guess I did agree in a way (over text) and then he tried getting it near my face I sat there for a couple of minutes unaware of what to do. I just shut my eyes and did as he asked, not even half way through I stopped he kept putting it in my face until he was done or happy with it. I said no trying to laugh it off but I felt really uncomfortable I said stop and he didn't he just kept going. I got used to it and I thought it was expected and its something I had to do. I was uncomfortable and scared I didn't want to ruin our relationship but now after the relationship has ended its all I can think about I feel dirty and disgusting. I feel like I'm squirming in my own skin.

    someone please tell me what happened? I dont know what to call it? am I over exaggerating?
     
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  3. EveHarrington

    EveHarrington _______ in progress. Premium Member

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    No, you’re not over exaggerating. You told him “no” and he didn’t listen. I’m so sorry this happened to you! Can you see a counselor who can help you process this and move forward?
     
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  4. Roxy Radke

    Roxy Radke New Member

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    no on knows about it. if I ask to see anybody everyone would freak out. thank you for replying
     
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  5. Chris-duck

    Chris-duck Active Member

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    Is there anybody you can see without other people finding out? I dunno where you live or how old you are so I'm not sure how easy that'd be. Failing that you could always ask your parents but just say school stress/low motivation or something minor as a reason you want it.
     
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  6. Roxy Radke

    Roxy Radke New Member

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    thank you I'll try that
     
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  7. Friday

    Friday Raise Hell Moderator

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  8. Her

    Her Guest

    I livedthe same thing. I don’t know what to do either. But go see someone and reslize it’s not your fault. I didn’t yet but we have to
     
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  9. Ravie

    Ravie Guest

    @Roxy Radke - The guy is an asshole. Sometimes we trust people who abuse that trust and use us. That guy is one of them. Take my advice baby, don't meet guys from the internet who talk about sex unless you are hot and want to f*ck them because that is ALL they want.
    That guy is a typical one of those selfish guys who pretends they want a relationship when all they're looking for is a bootycall.
    That is what happened and it makes us feel shitty.
    If I were you I would try to put it down to experience, try to turn it into something positive, you learned something. Relationships are a minefield of bullshit. Trust no one. When a guy tries to overstep your boundaries make your excuses, need to use the bathroom and then leave.
     
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  10. cactus_jack

    cactus_jack Well-Known Member

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    I'm with Ravie on this. Kinda. Yeah, the guy's an asshole. But I think you can help him with his problem fairly simple- If he oversteps his boundaries, punch his lights out. Problem solved.
    Word'll get around that you don't take crap.
     
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