Thanks both, and I’m really glad I didn’t worry you
Wonder if there is a way to make that better if you want to try again at some point? Would it help to maybe email or phone the organiser and ask to meet a few minutes earlier and 'buddy' up with them or someone? Or something else that might help?So far all attempts to socialise with other autistics have gone really badly.
Perhaps, I could try next month. Though zi did contact them before going today. I hadn't asked about going early and I certainly didn't arrive early.Would it help to maybe email or phone the organiser and ask to meet a few minutes earlier and 'buddy' up with them or someone? Or something else that might help?
I was hooked up with rethink, I'd been told how amazing thry used to be, when she came to see me it seemed all they offered was signposting to other organisations, and I'm pretty hood at googling stuff myself. When I asked do you only signpost to other organisations she said yes. And I went and got upsetAlso, some areas in the UK have mental health organisations that could offer to have someone go along with you to such events, maybe that could make it less anxiety-provoking?
Socialising I think, activities do make it easier yes.Was the social for general socialising only or did they have a leader / activities you could do there? Sometimes it's better if there's something like an activity to focus on rather than just feeling pressure to talk. Maybe other people felt anxious at it too?
He's only a human being too though. This charity, is 2 dad's, they aren't paid to do this, they don't owe me a thing, they got my my autistic therapist, I think they're pretty amazing already.The group leader should be more accommodating and put you at ease. Also you weren't feeling well before you went. Try again next time and maybe contact them before hand and say your new.
Really pleased to hear this @TeaselToday was better. An online autistic zoom thingamejig. Not a social but more a structured thing. Was nice.
I has a successful (fairly) social experience under me belt
You could call it nodding therapy.
Whereby you be on a zoom call and get to nod at what others say a lot because you relate to it too because they are like you.
A little late but I agree with the others! You were really brave!I went to an autistic social, made myself go, stood there and no one said anything to me so I got anxious and left. On the way back to the car I told myself I'd regret not trying again. So went back inside and told one of the people running it how anxious I was and they seemed uncomfortable, I couldn't bear it, left crying.
Been feeling particularly shame filled today even before I went.
So far all attempts to socialise with other autistics have gone really badly.