Shadowekat
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I have recently told my brother i dont want my dad in my life anymore. if dad calls i will refuse to pick up. we havent spoken on over six months now. there is a long history of physical, emotional and psychological abuse that my father denies at least to my face. He values his pride above all else including his relationships with his family. I resented my mom for a long time for marrying him because he was so far removed from her own culture. My brother is torn because of my descision and he feels responsible for trying to repair our broken relationship between me and my dad. How do i get him past the hurt and get him to not feel so responsible? he is still stuck to his blind loyalty of family no matter what..to a fault. just because you share DNA doesnt excuse unrepenting abusive behavior. What do i do for my brother? he still lives in the same house as him. I decided the last straw was when my partner of 5 years was with me in Texas (hes from the netherlands and im an expat) visiting them both, dad and brother. the way he behaved towards us was disgraceful. at first i denied my partners feelings because i wanted to believe my dad was really changing, when really he was different only for a time do to grieving over my mothers death. We almost parted over what had happend.