Practice.
Ever notice how the simplest answers are the hardest to accomplish? Doesn’t make them any less true, however. Practice, a thousand times a day, or as often as you think of it. In small ways, big ways, complicated ways, simple ways. In every situation and scenario, every what that you can think of, until you master it. Then put yourself in situations and scenarios that test that mastery. But first? Any little small thing, for even the barest moment. And then do it again. And again. And again. Little pieces in moments become bigger, stronger, faster, more complete, more who you want to be, and how you want to be.
Are there specific skills handed down over centuries and millennium for various kinds of control? Absolutely. and practicing any kind of control will make the following kinds easier to accomplish. So you can reeeeeally start anywhere. Personally, I usually pick whatever is annoying me the most, or causing the most disruption to my life, and work my way on down the list. Less a linear thing, than a fluid thing.
