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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Movingforward10" data-source="post: 1699407" data-attributes="member: 49737">I'm sorry all those things happened.I think if something feels right to you, then it must be right? You know your feelings, your level of comfort in disclosing, and how you want to give closure to him (and you).The fact, 3 years later, you are both thinking about what happened, shows how important your time together was? From what you write, it sounds as though responding to him is more than just giving him closure, but helping you formulate it in your mind too? So closure for both of you?I agree with your T, that you are not obliged to him at all. But it feels as though you know that.Why is it lame to say you had a lot going on? You can acknowledge that you shared a lot in common and how he made an imprint in your life, but that you were going through personal issues that you needed to deal with for yourself by yourself.You don't need to go into any detail of events or specific trauma. Especially if this does not feel right for you.</blockquote>