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I met the right guy at the wrong time now he has reconnected do I tell him about the trauma
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<blockquote data-quote="Rosebud" data-source="post: 1699523" data-attributes="member: 1418"><p>I think just projecting as happy, etc, is something some of us do for decades.</p><p></p><p>You titled this right guy at the wrong time, not quite sure if you feel that, and still think of him as 'the right guy' ? Or if you told him that, that is why he might be confused? As 3 years is a long time for not knowing him that long. But, I knew 3 men like that, sometimes wonder where they are, and have heard they've asked about me. Only saying that because years of living later for some reason they do? That being said, none I regret not remaining with. But nor do I have a single bad thing to say, nor think they wouldn't have been very good partners. It also never crossed my mind ghosting was a bothersome thing (though that didn't apply to those 3, entirely). I hope they are doing well. Lots of times I think it was a good thing for them they didn't have to go through stuff with me!</p><p></p><p>The blocking and such, well reactive and less mature, but that was a long time ago (as was his comment).</p><p></p><p>If you really do think he was the right guy, reconnect. If not, but you care for him enough to try to give him closure, you can be brief and not disclose. I would think if you never disclosed anything, something held you back? (Including but not limited to, lack of trust?)</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rosebud, post: 1699523, member: 1418"] I think just projecting as happy, etc, is something some of us do for decades. You titled this right guy at the wrong time, not quite sure if you feel that, and still think of him as 'the right guy' ? Or if you told him that, that is why he might be confused? As 3 years is a long time for not knowing him that long. But, I knew 3 men like that, sometimes wonder where they are, and have heard they've asked about me. Only saying that because years of living later for some reason they do? That being said, none I regret not remaining with. But nor do I have a single bad thing to say, nor think they wouldn't have been very good partners. It also never crossed my mind ghosting was a bothersome thing (though that didn't apply to those 3, entirely). I hope they are doing well. Lots of times I think it was a good thing for them they didn't have to go through stuff with me! The blocking and such, well reactive and less mature, but that was a long time ago (as was his comment). If you really do think he was the right guy, reconnect. If not, but you care for him enough to try to give him closure, you can be brief and not disclose. I would think if you never disclosed anything, something held you back? (Including but not limited to, lack of trust?) Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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