Justmehere
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I ran into a trigger: several people who asked for my help, didn't show up to agreed upon parts or meetings for the help, then when I declined to reschedule they complained I wasn't helping enough and their goals were not met. I set and held boundaries as kindly as I could, but it played out where I tried to... be enough? And got slammed for not being everything when they didn't even show up! We were on a team together, and it's like they threw away my work and then said it wasn't enough. When I think about it, I'm really deeply bothered about this more than the situation deserves. It should just be annoying and me shrugging off people as lazy and not worth my time. It was people I knew for awhile, and it was several of them. It's hitting something much deeper for me.
I think I am feeling like I was used? Is that it? Can't figure it out or find words. It was several people in a short time. To compound it, I set boundaries I couldn't talk to help them meet their needs any further that they complained I wasn't helping meet sufficiently. I told them yep. I can't help at all. I directed them to people who could. They did not avail themselves of that support.
Then one claimed they wanted to repair the relationship. I told them I'm really sick (I am) and I would consider talking in a few weeks or months. Not now. They pressed in. Said I clearly wasn't that sick if I could type an email back to decline a phone call or meeting with them.
I have asked they do not contact me again. I have blocked them and they are busy being the assholes that they are. I mean, I should just shrug this off as ok, cool, I kicked assholes out of my life.
But I'm triggered. Fight or flight triggered. It doesn't make sense to me right now. Does it make sense to anyone else? Am I overlooking the obvious?
I think I am feeling like I was used? Is that it? Can't figure it out or find words. It was several people in a short time. To compound it, I set boundaries I couldn't talk to help them meet their needs any further that they complained I wasn't helping meet sufficiently. I told them yep. I can't help at all. I directed them to people who could. They did not avail themselves of that support.
Then one claimed they wanted to repair the relationship. I told them I'm really sick (I am) and I would consider talking in a few weeks or months. Not now. They pressed in. Said I clearly wasn't that sick if I could type an email back to decline a phone call or meeting with them.
I have asked they do not contact me again. I have blocked them and they are busy being the assholes that they are. I mean, I should just shrug this off as ok, cool, I kicked assholes out of my life.
But I'm triggered. Fight or flight triggered. It doesn't make sense to me right now. Does it make sense to anyone else? Am I overlooking the obvious?