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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kittie" data-source="post: 1708291" data-attributes="member: 50141">I've been stressing about telling my boyfriend/fiancee the details of a trauma that put a kink in our future. He didn't understand my fear of flying, now he does (somewhat). Thank you to Scout, if I remember correctly, for the info my friend could look up and read for himself. It made starting the conversation much easier. While he was reading, I climbed a rock and waited. My friend was surprised to learn it wasn't a little problem. He didn't have a lot of questions, but is agreeable with going by boat instead of flying. He said if he saw me have a panic attack, it would make him uncomfortable. He doesn't deal with crying ladies very well! He decided to share something difficult in his past, which helps me understand his lack of emotions, which I'd been misreading.  He does care but shows it in his own way. Now that I know that, I won't feel unheard. It was as hard for him to tell his news as it was for me with mine. Our chat brought us closer to understanding each other and strengthened us both knowing we can talk about ANYthing and we still accept each other!We packed up the tent and got home before the snow storm hit. I feel a ton of bricks has been removed from me!  The only problems going by boat causes are my concern of catching covid and I wouldn't be allowed to take my cats. If we fly, the cats can, too.  They've been my companions for years and I can't desert them. They're all I had in my reclusive years.Now the ball is in my court...I have to overcome my ultimate terror to bring my furballs.  I haven't talked to a therapist in a long time, but I think a few visits would be good. I want to be normal in a common everyday situation. The future looks bright if I don't mess things up.</blockquote>

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