So I need help. Me (M 23) and my ex girlfriend (F 23) broke up about 3 weeks ago and we were in a relationship for a year. I emotionally hurt her back in October by accusing her of trying to cheat on me and betraying me. I was paranoid and out of line and I’ve regretted my behavior since it happened. My now ex girlfriend has mental health issues from her childhood and so she was struggling to forgive me because I brought up bad memories from her past. Her dad was verbally and emotionally abusive and told her to kill herself growing up to the point that she contemplated it. I’m not emotionally abusive and she knows that I’m nothing like her father but she said I brought up bad memories. Since the fight I’ve committed 100% to changing myself to be a more compassionate and sensitive boyfriend. So me and her made up after that fight and for 3 months she said she tried really hard to love me again but found it difficult to get passed that day. When she broke up with me three weeks ago, She said she doesn’t feel anything for me right now despite her efforts. She said she completely shutdown towards me proceeding our fight. She said I’ve been doing everything right lately but she cant get passed that day. About a month ago we went on two dates however and had a lot of fun...we laughed, smiled, hugged, and kissed. For Christmas we both got each other really thoughtful gifts. (I got her a promise ring because things were looking like they were getting back to normal and I wanted to show her I loved her and was committed to her and she got me a dvd set of my favorite tv show, shoes I’ve been trying to find, and a candle). It seems like she still cares about me but she is just struggling internally to bring her walls back down and trust me again. I’m giving her her space so that she can heal and figure out what she needs to figure out. I’ve always been her biggest supporter and shoulder when she was sad or upset. She invited her father to her graduation ceremony for college and he said he couldn’t come because one of his kids with her step mom had a soccer game so I volunteered to show up in his place and support her. I miss her and feel like before the fight we complimented each other’s lives and personalities so well. I don’t get how our first big argument could cause her to shut me out and forget all of our good memories. I guess that’s what I’m looking to understand by making this post. I want her back so bad and I want to apologize again and make things right but I also know she needs space. It’s been a week since we spoke, and when we spoke she talked to me about her emotions and how she feels regarding other topics like work and her day-to-day, but I didn’t bring up the relationship or breakup. Can I get some advice?