I want to feel safe, little rant

[Missesme]

I want to feel safe so that I can be alive. I want to be able to eat, drink, sleep and literally anything without doing tons of precautions.

It feels so hopeless. My therapist recommended that I talk to the scared part of me but I honestly think there is no point in that since it is me that feels in danger and not just a part. He also keeps on asking what makes me feel safe but the only thing that does is ocd.

I hate this. I just want to be safe. One does not simply feel safe after trauma but I really want to learn what safe feels like.

 

[Survivor3]

What do you associate with safety?

 

[LuckiLee]

Self defense classes!!!
New locks on doors
Security lights
Ring Doorbell
Exercise

I've watched young girls become empowered after learning self defense. Everyone should learn.

Sorry you're struggling.

 

[Rosebud]

One does not simply feel safe after trauma but I really want to learn what safe feels like.

This is an important point I think. Like, we are teaching the puppy that calm is comfortable, and she is learning to relax (it seems). I once read, ~"How can someone 'be' calm, if they don't know what 'calm' feels like?" I think the same goes for safety. It's not that we don't realize it's never actually safe, but to realize sometimes it is safe. If that makes sense?

 

[Becky1967]

How long have u had these issues?....what is ur age? Late 20s to early 30s is when u get hit with abuse from ur childhood...getting in my kid bunk bed and putting blanket curtains all around made me feel safe...u have to find urs...good luck..