I am new here, and found this site a little too late - i'm afraid. (But I am still writing anyway) I have been married to my school sweetheart for two years now. We hadn't seen each other for 20 years, were each divorced and he found me close to our hometown. He was the love of my life back then- and I married him one year after we reunited.
He told me that he had been to Iraq, had a parachuting accident, and was "damaged". I knew him when we were kids, and his family, and never dreamt it was something we couldn't overcome.
However, we have been through suicidal tenancies, hospitalization as he was deemed a threat to himself or others, detox from a vicodin addiction only to be replaced with a raging pot addiction (all day every day), and I feel so angry now.
I have been very supportive and patient - he is in a group therapy twice a month at the Vet Center - and needs to go to rehab then inpatient PTSD treatment which is like 4-5 months all together.
We have a business together - but it wasn't working - so I took a job to ease the stress - and now I resent that he can't help me at all by remembering ANYTHING. He is totally numbed out, resents my constant nagging (brush your teeth, shave your face, call your son) The house, the car, nothing is clean or organized or maintained....and I am resentful too.
His counselor asked me to write a letter explaining ouyr life - and he freaked! His family freaked! They are all - like this is very very bad.
When will it get better? Will it get better? And will all of this be healed? His family told me, "You might have to be the bread winner" - how attractive is that? I can live better on my own!
I know I married into this situation - and I have enabled him quite alot - by trying to minimize stress and problems by constantly reminding him of everything -but I am so confused. I feel like no matter which way I turn it will be unpleasant. I am so over it. Life shouldn't be this hard.
He told me that he had been to Iraq, had a parachuting accident, and was "damaged". I knew him when we were kids, and his family, and never dreamt it was something we couldn't overcome.
However, we have been through suicidal tenancies, hospitalization as he was deemed a threat to himself or others, detox from a vicodin addiction only to be replaced with a raging pot addiction (all day every day), and I feel so angry now.
I have been very supportive and patient - he is in a group therapy twice a month at the Vet Center - and needs to go to rehab then inpatient PTSD treatment which is like 4-5 months all together.
We have a business together - but it wasn't working - so I took a job to ease the stress - and now I resent that he can't help me at all by remembering ANYTHING. He is totally numbed out, resents my constant nagging (brush your teeth, shave your face, call your son) The house, the car, nothing is clean or organized or maintained....and I am resentful too.
His counselor asked me to write a letter explaining ouyr life - and he freaked! His family freaked! They are all - like this is very very bad.
When will it get better? Will it get better? And will all of this be healed? His family told me, "You might have to be the bread winner" - how attractive is that? I can live better on my own!
I know I married into this situation - and I have enabled him quite alot - by trying to minimize stress and problems by constantly reminding him of everything -but I am so confused. I feel like no matter which way I turn it will be unpleasant. I am so over it. Life shouldn't be this hard.