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I really hope this is not too graphic, but have exhausted all my other options for information.
I (33M) am having intimacy issues creating a fear of sex and orgasms. I suffer from military related PTSD not related in any way to sexual trauma (I only mention since googling the issue assumes sexual trauma as the cause). When my wife and I try to have sex, I need a pill just to keep an erection. That is fine but when things move forward and I feel like I am starting to build towards orgasm, something changes and I get extremely high anxiety and sometimes a panic attack/flash back resulting in me stopping immediately and unable to continue. I have intense shame over the issue and want nothing more than to start moving in a positive direction with the problem. I haven’t been able to orgasm with my wife in almost two years. I daydream about being able to have sex like we used to, wanting to believe that this can get better.
I hope someone here can help with recommendations. I have searched high and low and am unable to find a solution short of a sex therapist, which I cannot afford.
I (33M) am having intimacy issues creating a fear of sex and orgasms. I suffer from military related PTSD not related in any way to sexual trauma (I only mention since googling the issue assumes sexual trauma as the cause). When my wife and I try to have sex, I need a pill just to keep an erection. That is fine but when things move forward and I feel like I am starting to build towards orgasm, something changes and I get extremely high anxiety and sometimes a panic attack/flash back resulting in me stopping immediately and unable to continue. I have intense shame over the issue and want nothing more than to start moving in a positive direction with the problem. I haven’t been able to orgasm with my wife in almost two years. I daydream about being able to have sex like we used to, wanting to believe that this can get better.
I hope someone here can help with recommendations. I have searched high and low and am unable to find a solution short of a sex therapist, which I cannot afford.