It’s been about 4 months since I’ve been on the forum. T and I were doing great, we were back to almost normal (I say almost because the pandemic put alittle strain on us, but that was out of our control). Monday we had a conversation about taking our relationship to the next level and working towards marriage but immediately I noticed that he was back to detaching and putting up a wall, he began mentioning a fight we had over a year and a half ago and how those things are preventing him from getting close to me. Is it normal or common for those who suffer from ptsd to carry on hurt and pain from 1 incident, unwilling to forgive and fully get close or trust because of it. What happened between the two of us was never cheating, it had to do with me saying some hurtful things because I was hurt, which I have taken full accountability for that. It’s been well over a year ?? I just don’t get it because there have been plenty of things he’s done (intentional/& not intentional) but by fault I forgive, I’d rather let go than hold onto pain and allow it to consume me.
Sorry for the rant, looking for alittle insight or advice.
Sorry for the rant, looking for alittle insight or advice.