WhereIsMyTribe
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Ok I have to get this off my chest. My husband drives me crazy. He’s extremely helpful when it comes to the chores and spending time with our daughter. So he thinks I should be happy. I am happy and grateful even though this is his space and his child as much as it’s mine so really he isn’t doing me any favors. I am still grateful because a lot of other women are suffering with the issues I do not have.
He just can’t have a sit down and a serious adult conversation. Every single time I bring up something that we need to work on or something I didn’t like, he thinks I am arguing with him. Every conversation is a potential argument. Now ok maybe it’s his upbringing and I empathize with that. BUT what do I do? Communication is my core value. I am not arguing I am just trying to have a heart to heart. It’s been a few days.. it’s dawned upon me that I have been deprived of heart to heart conversations. He comes home eats and we watch TV. Which is great. It’s great I get it because it’s relaxing etc. But not even once a week? I can’t have a heart to heart once a week? Before getting married I used to have friends I met up with for coffee and we would talk for hours. Men or women... and it gave me so much joy. After getting married and moving to a new city, damn am I deprived. And the only thing he says is I’m not used to talking or you know everything about me already. When we do get into an argument he goes silent on me for HOURS and then the next day apologizes and assumes that it’s all gone now. Do you know what this is? Because just writing this makes me SO anxious and angry. I have a knot in my gut. I think I screwed up. I try to be understanding. I try.
Am I doing something wrong? If I am doing something wrong please be brutally honesty and tell me because I am willing to work on myself. I am willing to learn. But I can’t talk about this to family out of respect for him. BUT OMG am I sick of this pattern now. Thank you for reading :(
He just can’t have a sit down and a serious adult conversation. Every single time I bring up something that we need to work on or something I didn’t like, he thinks I am arguing with him. Every conversation is a potential argument. Now ok maybe it’s his upbringing and I empathize with that. BUT what do I do? Communication is my core value. I am not arguing I am just trying to have a heart to heart. It’s been a few days.. it’s dawned upon me that I have been deprived of heart to heart conversations. He comes home eats and we watch TV. Which is great. It’s great I get it because it’s relaxing etc. But not even once a week? I can’t have a heart to heart once a week? Before getting married I used to have friends I met up with for coffee and we would talk for hours. Men or women... and it gave me so much joy. After getting married and moving to a new city, damn am I deprived. And the only thing he says is I’m not used to talking or you know everything about me already. When we do get into an argument he goes silent on me for HOURS and then the next day apologizes and assumes that it’s all gone now. Do you know what this is? Because just writing this makes me SO anxious and angry. I have a knot in my gut. I think I screwed up. I try to be understanding. I try.
Am I doing something wrong? If I am doing something wrong please be brutally honesty and tell me because I am willing to work on myself. I am willing to learn. But I can’t talk about this to family out of respect for him. BUT OMG am I sick of this pattern now. Thank you for reading :(