So, over a year ago I was seeing this guy, and on our first date I got incredibly drunk and he had to escort me home. I remember saying 'please don't have sex with me because I'm too drunk to say no'.
He did it anyway. I just guessed that I was too drunk and that I had consented without realising, and I carried on seeing the guy because he seemed really nice. But the more I think about it, and with the whole 'me too' consent movement that's been happening - I realise I didn't consent, I was practically unconscious.
Anyway - we broke up a short time later, and I sort of got over it. I've been on a few dates, but I haven't slept with anyone since, as I now find it hard to trust - is it a passionate kiss, or is it an attack? Etc. And he got in touch again recently, which have brought back all those feelings of anger and humiliation.
I considered reporting it, but the guy is very wealthy. Like - will find the best lawyers and I am 99% sure I will end up humiliated in court (if it even goes that far).
I don't know what to do. Is it worth reporting? I know it's the right thing to do. Even if it's just so he knows that what he did isn't ok. Because he's basically a spoiled, rich white boy who thinks he's untouchable.
On the one hand, I have texts on my phone because I lost him on a train when I was going to the loo (I walked up and down the train and couldn't find him because I was so drunk).
On the other hand, it was so long ago that I will look petty, and I have basically no evidence, so it's my word against his.
What are your thoughts? Honestly. I know reporting is "the right thing to do", but also, I don't want to put myself through all of that if nothing will change.
He did it anyway. I just guessed that I was too drunk and that I had consented without realising, and I carried on seeing the guy because he seemed really nice. But the more I think about it, and with the whole 'me too' consent movement that's been happening - I realise I didn't consent, I was practically unconscious.
Anyway - we broke up a short time later, and I sort of got over it. I've been on a few dates, but I haven't slept with anyone since, as I now find it hard to trust - is it a passionate kiss, or is it an attack? Etc. And he got in touch again recently, which have brought back all those feelings of anger and humiliation.
I considered reporting it, but the guy is very wealthy. Like - will find the best lawyers and I am 99% sure I will end up humiliated in court (if it even goes that far).
I don't know what to do. Is it worth reporting? I know it's the right thing to do. Even if it's just so he knows that what he did isn't ok. Because he's basically a spoiled, rich white boy who thinks he's untouchable.
On the one hand, I have texts on my phone because I lost him on a train when I was going to the loo (I walked up and down the train and couldn't find him because I was so drunk).
On the other hand, it was so long ago that I will look petty, and I have basically no evidence, so it's my word against his.
What are your thoughts? Honestly. I know reporting is "the right thing to do", but also, I don't want to put myself through all of that if nothing will change.