Justmehere
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A text that I found helpful for me (May not be the case for other sufferers) when shit was hitting the fan in life (as is happening for many who are working while a pandemic is happening) and I had no capacity to keep up with relationships:
“Hey, I’ll assume we are good unless you tell me clearly otherwise and for now, with all that’s going on, I won’t worry if we don’t connect as often for a little while. Looking forward to when things ease up again.”
I wanted to run across quarantine barriers to hug them for being so understanding. I knew they were there. I knew they wanted to connect. I knew I had nothing to feel guilty about. I knew they understood. I knew they were not taking it personally. It helped me look forward to connecting to take the pressure off.
Take him at his word. Don’t set up things where he’ll depend on you to guess unspoken communications. Things really are nutty in many workplaces with so much changing so fast and for PTSDers it fills up our stress cups and many simply run out of ability to connect. It’s not lack of care.
“Hey, I’ll assume we are good unless you tell me clearly otherwise and for now, with all that’s going on, I won’t worry if we don’t connect as often for a little while. Looking forward to when things ease up again.”
I wanted to run across quarantine barriers to hug them for being so understanding. I knew they were there. I knew they wanted to connect. I knew I had nothing to feel guilty about. I knew they understood. I knew they were not taking it personally. It helped me look forward to connecting to take the pressure off.
Take him at his word. Don’t set up things where he’ll depend on you to guess unspoken communications. Things really are nutty in many workplaces with so much changing so fast and for PTSDers it fills up our stress cups and many simply run out of ability to connect. It’s not lack of care.