No,but at least she response to friends or family onlyDid she ever respond to you?
This is something I struggled with myself after first learning of my ex's PTSD. The more he pushed me away, the more fear I had that he would harm himself or feel abandoned so I pushed to get him to talk. If I texted and he didn't answer, I would text again. I never understood the push-pull dynamic that was happening and didn't understand or see my responsibility in it. In hindsight I wish I hadn't pushed so hard but the isolation was too hard to take. Everything felt so personal and I would just react based on my emotions and not what he was enduring.I wouldn’t text her then. I would cut my losses and move on.
In this relationship whenever my ex pulled away, I became the "chaser" and I have never been that way in a relationship before. It made me feel insecure, unimportant and unloved,
That’s the thing...I feel obsessed with getting back to where we were or fixing it and It's very unhealthy.
I agree with what you’re saying and I believe as strange as it sounds; I do enjoy the chase. That’s probably why I have still been attached to this man after years of the push / pull without a known cause or reasoning. I do enjoy the “non mundane” and the passion and energy it brings when he’s feeling on.That’s the thing...
Some people? Loooooove the chase / being the chaser. It’s exciting, and interesting/challenging, and it suits them right down to the ground.
And some people? Love both intensity AND independence (most career military spouses, for example? Tend to lose their minds when their spouse retires, and instead of 40 years of honeymoons & freedom? The eedjit is just there. All. The. Time. From a passionate and freewheeling tango to a shuffly boring waltz that never changes. & Vice versa).
If those styles don’t suit YOU, and aren’t what you want in a relationship? Being in a relationship with someone in the military, or someone with PTSD who isolates, etc. (etc = countless other jobs, and many other personality styles/preferences).. Is just going to make you miserable. Because it’s not what you want. And there is no “fixing” it... because it’s not broken. It’s their career, or health, or personality. It’s just also not what you want.