I was just reading about dependency and the goal of therapy not being independence but interdependence. So maybe a person can be self-resilient and also interdependent and independence doesn’t necessarily mean resilient? Independence can be a block to vulnerability, and maybe a block to self awareness which is a gateway to self-resilience?some podcast book on attachment that said self-resiliency is not independence (? . I don't get that
I agree with you. I think resiliency is when a person can move forward with relative ease or quickness from a problem or tough situation......via the ability to "let go" of control over a situation.... or in situations where a person can have an impact in resolving a situation, and can do so without getting caught up in their own or other's emotions to the extent that it creates dysfunction (in self care, social situations, or makes them feel negatively -, worthless, inept, unworthy, etc.). I think the key to resiliency is that one is in a positive emotional space allowing them to have the ability to manage issues with relative ease or effort.....and a sense of quickness in resolving or moving past tough situations or recovering from them. Just my opinion, but I think one needs to be in a good place and believe in themself, feeling competent or self-confident like you said, in order to able to be resilient.Just ETA @OliveJewel , I think perhaps resiliency has less to do with independence/ interdependence (other than the support associated with the latter), as perhaps an internal locus of control (feeling you have agency or can effect events), self-confidence or a sense of competency, good social and self-care skills (to manage stress), and the ability to ask for help (that would be less independent). Also physical health, less chronic pain (which drains energy), etc. JMHO.