Anthony & Kerrie-Ann,
I want to thank you both for putting this site together. I have been living with a sufferer of PTSD for over 6 years without knowing what was going on. I knew she had many ghosts in her closet, and even knew what some of them were, but I had no idea that she was being so controlled by them. At times I just figured that I was the cause of her misery! That is what made it very confusing when she would tell me how much she loved me, and didn't want to lose me. "Well, then," I'd think to myself, "quit trying to run me off!" I would tell her all the time that I wasn't going to leave her, and she would follow that up with an explosion of gargantuan proportions. At times, I thought she was trying to run me off, but then she'd tell me how she couldn't bear the thought of loosing me. HUH?? I can not tell you what kept me from pulling all my hair out and running away screaming like a mad man, but I didn't. I love her with all my heart, and I knew she was worth fighting for. I'm just glad that we have finally come to a point where there is an end in sight, and an explination at hand.
I read the poem about listening, and boy, did that hit home. I can relate to the guy who mentioned how it was in him to fix the issues, that's what he did the best. Well, that's the approach I take, too. Why would you come to me with a problem if you don't want me to do something about it? I still don't get it, but I understand the need to be the listener when that's what she is seeking.
Anyway, thanks again for this site, and for the answers. And thank you for the help and support you have given my wife. She has gotten so much from you and all of those who post here. I will forever be in your debt, you have given me my wife back!
Kim's Man
I want to thank you both for putting this site together. I have been living with a sufferer of PTSD for over 6 years without knowing what was going on. I knew she had many ghosts in her closet, and even knew what some of them were, but I had no idea that she was being so controlled by them. At times I just figured that I was the cause of her misery! That is what made it very confusing when she would tell me how much she loved me, and didn't want to lose me. "Well, then," I'd think to myself, "quit trying to run me off!" I would tell her all the time that I wasn't going to leave her, and she would follow that up with an explosion of gargantuan proportions. At times, I thought she was trying to run me off, but then she'd tell me how she couldn't bear the thought of loosing me. HUH?? I can not tell you what kept me from pulling all my hair out and running away screaming like a mad man, but I didn't. I love her with all my heart, and I knew she was worth fighting for. I'm just glad that we have finally come to a point where there is an end in sight, and an explination at hand.
I read the poem about listening, and boy, did that hit home. I can relate to the guy who mentioned how it was in him to fix the issues, that's what he did the best. Well, that's the approach I take, too. Why would you come to me with a problem if you don't want me to do something about it? I still don't get it, but I understand the need to be the listener when that's what she is seeking.
Anyway, thanks again for this site, and for the answers. And thank you for the help and support you have given my wife. She has gotten so much from you and all of those who post here. I will forever be in your debt, you have given me my wife back!
Kim's Man