desert4now
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Hi Kim's Man,
Thanks for the words. Hope things are going well for you.
I don't think I could try the big hug idea only because his episodes are not physical (thank God). He gets just very emotionally abusive. Knowingly saying things that hurt me deeply and then following up with (in the end) ..."you know I was just kidding". Okay. What am I supposed to do with that piece of information??? I do want to add that when he is not having these episodes, he is a kind and good hearted man...gentle. We have alot of stress right now which I think is what caused these difficulties this time. We are going through the third move in a year. I'm not talking small moves..Midwest to Hawaii to CA and back to the Midwest. Of course, financially it has wiped us both out. Because the moves are based on his decisions about his job, maybe he is feeling a sense of guilt over the financial stuff????
I don't know sometimes. I just need to get to the point where his words do not cut me like a knife. Kerrie-Ann talks of kicking boots which helps. Any other suggestions regarding not letting those words destoy my insides???? I refuse to be destroyed again!!!
Sorry...venting.
We'll be moving in three weeks back towards family.
Thanks for the words. Hope things are going well for you.
I don't think I could try the big hug idea only because his episodes are not physical (thank God). He gets just very emotionally abusive. Knowingly saying things that hurt me deeply and then following up with (in the end) ..."you know I was just kidding". Okay. What am I supposed to do with that piece of information??? I do want to add that when he is not having these episodes, he is a kind and good hearted man...gentle. We have alot of stress right now which I think is what caused these difficulties this time. We are going through the third move in a year. I'm not talking small moves..Midwest to Hawaii to CA and back to the Midwest. Of course, financially it has wiped us both out. Because the moves are based on his decisions about his job, maybe he is feeling a sense of guilt over the financial stuff????
I don't know sometimes. I just need to get to the point where his words do not cut me like a knife. Kerrie-Ann talks of kicking boots which helps. Any other suggestions regarding not letting those words destoy my insides???? I refuse to be destroyed again!!!
Sorry...venting.
We'll be moving in three weeks back towards family.