EveHarrington
MyPTSD Pro
How do you deal with loneliness during the holiday season?
I have my mom in my life but I’m estranged to various degrees with much of my family. I still speak to some who are more distant, but as you know that’s not the same.
Things ended with my ex a few months ago although he sent me flowers after not speaking to me for a month, assuming that would be enough to get me back. Of course it wasn’t, because I was explicit in telling him exactly what I needed, which was making an effort and meeting me half way. It was clear when I messaged him a few days after getting the flowers that he went right back to pushing me to the side. Don’t get me wrong. Holidays and birthdays were miserable with him in my life as he was a complete grinchy Scrooge about it all, and I spent most of those days hoping I’d at the very least get a “happy whatever” kind of text, but usually I didn’t. (Yes I know it was bad.) So in the end I’m happy to not be walking on eggshells throughout the entire holiday season, but at the same time I still feel lonely.
I am trying to keep myself busy although I have had a few week period of being pretty depressed and falling behind with life. I think I’m on the upswing now which is good as life has become pretty hectic.
So do you have any suggestions for dealing with the loneliness?
Thank you.
I have my mom in my life but I’m estranged to various degrees with much of my family. I still speak to some who are more distant, but as you know that’s not the same.
Things ended with my ex a few months ago although he sent me flowers after not speaking to me for a month, assuming that would be enough to get me back. Of course it wasn’t, because I was explicit in telling him exactly what I needed, which was making an effort and meeting me half way. It was clear when I messaged him a few days after getting the flowers that he went right back to pushing me to the side. Don’t get me wrong. Holidays and birthdays were miserable with him in my life as he was a complete grinchy Scrooge about it all, and I spent most of those days hoping I’d at the very least get a “happy whatever” kind of text, but usually I didn’t. (Yes I know it was bad.) So in the end I’m happy to not be walking on eggshells throughout the entire holiday season, but at the same time I still feel lonely.
I am trying to keep myself busy although I have had a few week period of being pretty depressed and falling behind with life. I think I’m on the upswing now which is good as life has become pretty hectic.
So do you have any suggestions for dealing with the loneliness?
Thank you.