purple butterfly
Gold Member
I am trying strategies to keep myself safe. At the moment it seems as though the only way I can keep myself safe is to lie low, especially in regard to my family.
Recently I got caught in my father's web. He rang to ask how my holiday with my daughter was. I was fooled, he was charming. Then I realized I had met his needs because I had contacted him and had a conversation. From his perspective all was ok.
In fact I had tested myself because I knew from the tone of his voice he was in a charming mode.Then I got a call from one of my brothers' asking if I had wanted to go to my father's for dinner.
It was like the phone call to my father had shown I had got over whatever it was I needed to get over!
I don't answer the phone and seem to be living the life of a recluse, except for going to work which I realize is a blessing. I teach children in their first year of school. My T said this is theraputic
because I can give them all the love and support that I lacked. My career choice seems to have been directly affected by my trauma.
Recently I got caught in my father's web. He rang to ask how my holiday with my daughter was. I was fooled, he was charming. Then I realized I had met his needs because I had contacted him and had a conversation. From his perspective all was ok.
In fact I had tested myself because I knew from the tone of his voice he was in a charming mode.Then I got a call from one of my brothers' asking if I had wanted to go to my father's for dinner.
It was like the phone call to my father had shown I had got over whatever it was I needed to get over!
I don't answer the phone and seem to be living the life of a recluse, except for going to work which I realize is a blessing. I teach children in their first year of school. My T said this is theraputic
because I can give them all the love and support that I lacked. My career choice seems to have been directly affected by my trauma.